I’ve celebrated enough New Year’s to know resolutions rarely come true. Throughout every year I’ll achieve some goals (ones not set in January), but they don’t feel like the momentous, dream tasks I envisioned. What are the explanations for why you don’t achieve your goals?
Not having a strong enough reason
Many people blame motivation as a defining excuse. It’s become a cliché splashed across articles and inspirational quotes. I don’t believe it’s what most of us lack. Wanderlustworker.com states not having “strong enough reasons” as a cause for not achieving goals. Without answers for why, determination and drive stay put.
For years I’ve wanted to learn Spanish. I think it’s a beautiful language and I’d like to know the words to Latin songs I listen to. I’ve researched classes, listened to audio tapes and watched YouTube videos. Last year I self-taught myself various sentences and everyday phrases. This year I’ve only learnt how to say Merry Christmas – Feliz Navidad. As badly as I want to learn, I also know I haven’t because Spanish doesn’t prioritise in my overall life.
It’s not necessarily going to make me a better writer or earn a significantly higher income. I don’t see Spanish as the blockage between success and my current situation/contentment. Likewise, with my blog, my views have drastically increased in the past few months, yet I’m not reaching the monthly views I want. This is partly due to not seeing enough reason to commit to daily Tweets and interaction. If I found more desire to stay focused, and really aim for a higher blog readership, I’m confident I could make that happen. Going through a writer’s block has made my blog ambition diminish.
A bad environment
According to publication The Conversation, changing your environment can boost willpower and help you succeed. There are two ways I view this:
- Removing temptation
- Surrounding yourself with honest people
Keeping credit cards nearby and chocolate stashed in cupboards can overthrow all determination. Depending on what you want, it’s important your surroundings and purchases reflect the person you’re trying to become. I believe in the saying: dress for the job you want, not the job you have. Picture the person you want to develop into, and imagine what they’d wear, how they’d eat…
People talk a lot about positive people, but I prefer honest. Someone who won’t pretend an idea is good if it’s not, while equally, appraising and acknowledging the times I do get it right. Having a group of yes people to lift you up doesn’t always work in the long-term.
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Procrastination – pretending
A great friend of mine wants to change her career and earn more money. Her number one priority is updating her CV – the gateway to applying for jobs to land something new. Rather than completing this update, she’s managed to fill her time with less important tasks: Rearranging her social media, researching new hobbies. Her procrastination has falsely convinced her to ignore her CV and focus elsewhere.
I tell her I know this because I’m a first-class procrastinator. I use to love fixating on my morning routine. Two hours meditating, drinking lemon water, stretching, exercising, journaling and reading. Once I completed, I worked my way through miniscule to-do notes. And then at the end of the day, I’d panic about major tasks with deadlines looming.
I’m certain if we stopped trying to make our mornings perfect and our behaviour impeccable, if we just tackled our goals head-on, we’d easier reach them. It’s about doing what feels good for us as individuals. Choosing when to work out and when to dedicate a moment to self-care.
Other reasons you don’t achieve your goals
A lack of confidence
If your ambitions are wrapped in insecurity, it’s difficult to keep striving. I share several tips on my post discussing how to build confidence, such as taking risks and improving assertiveness.
You stopped caring
For years I have obsessed over abs and put together dietary plans to lose weight around my stomach. I’ve dropped three dress sizes and lost one stone. Nonetheless my abs hide unless summer entices me to reinforce my regimented health plan. I realised I simply stopped caring. As I’m happy with my body, I gave up my core aspirations.
You haven’t got structure to achieve your goals
How specific is your goal? Is it attainable with your current lifestyle? Do you know exactly what to do each month? For 2020, I’m setting myself a better planning schedule. I need to improve my ability to evaluate my progress.
From 0 to 100
Jumping from doing nothing to doing everything. A prime example: Saying you want to write a book without having experience of writing long-form daily. In the summer, I came up with a challenge called: 30 things that scare me. I haven’t yet reached 30 but I’m pushing continually. My first requirement was to spend time alone in public, leading me to eat at a restaurant by myself, followed by public speaking. By setting myself small steps, I have continued to build.
You don’t know what you really want
I never finished my goals as a kid. One minute I was a dancer, the next a swimmer, and then a baker. Whenever I passionately began to get involved with something, another shiny activity sprang. In summary, I was clueless – I copied what seemed interesting and hoped it stuck.
When you don’t achieve your goals, do not instantly assume it’s due to poor determination. There are copious reasons why dreams don’t always make it.