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  1. Melina Elisa says

    hmm, I never really thought about it. I don’t really like someone who will only respond one a day or only twice, cause it seems like you’re not interested or that you’re bothering them, but at the same time if someone answered quickly all the time, especially when you’re first getting to know them, it’s kind of like you said, you’re putting everything to the side because of a stranger. There’s a balance, which it all depends on the duration you’ve been talking, how well you know each other, where your relationship is, and a whole bunch of other things. Great post Laura, definitely one of my recent favorites! xx

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  2. Beyoutiful says

    Interesting topic! I personally really don’t like anyone playing hard to get esp men. If you like someone and want them in your life, just show it through your actions and be honest. Don’t play games as that will just confuse the other person which can lead to misunderstandings. I mean if you like each other, just be upfront and be consistent with your actions and it should work out. One of my pet peeves is when men play hard to get. If a guy is interested, just show it (reply to messages quickly, don’t cancel on plans, keep your promises, etc). I never play hard to get whether it’s my friends or even someone who I like. If I’m busy, I don’t reply immediately because I feel like I need space but otherwise, I don’t personally like the playin hard to get behavior. It’s nice to know someone is really into you but at the same time not being too clingy either. Surprising that some people think it’s attractive. Great post girl

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you girl! I think the problem is, everyone has different experiences and ideas of what playing hard to get means. If a guy is balanced and eases into conversation without over messaging, I won’t feel the urge to edit my behaviour. But if someone is repeatedly replying fast and always around, I do end up retreating because I don’t like that pressure.
      And sometimes it’s nice to have some built anticipation of waiting to hear back, as long as it’s not a ridiculous time. Thank you for reading.

  3. hoiyinli says

    I’ve been told that I play too hard to get hence why I’m still single. I don’t necessarily agree with this statement. I think if there was chemistry between two people, a sort of energy for the chase, then it would pan out well. Sort of like you said, the playing hard to get is only worth it if you really like someone and you’re quite positive the feelings are mutual. I’m the type of person who can be surprisingly blunt and I just don’t like leading people on or doing something just cos some sweet boy suggested so. I guess I’m not a romantic in the wider sense of the word. I like grit which I think is why playing hard to get can be attractive..friction is sexy. (Obviously it isn’t if someone’s ego is damaged along the way?) That’s not to say I like the bad boy persona either but I guess all I’m saying is giving in easily doesn’t put a challenge on the (potential) relationship.

    • LauraJ says

      I understand what you mean. It’s the balance of excitement and a little challenge without an actual bad boy persona guy who treats you badly.
      Bluntless is a great quality – although sometimes tough at the time, it’s better to be honest in the long-run.

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