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  1. hoiyinli says

    This is such a brave topic to write about!

    I think you have a point especially when most things learnt are off the internet…we’re in the internet age after all and if next gens are going to learn about sex, it’s guaranteed to be from PornHub sadly. I do think however that people are aware that that’s not real sex or I hope so anyways. There is a fascination with watching such material though because it’s good to have something intangible and sex – especially if fantasy (think kinky outfits, ridiculous scenarios like being called daddy, pain pleasure etc. etc.) provides that sort of outlet. I have spoken to some men before about sex and the basic consensus that I’ve gathered is that they like a woman who can dominate in sex too and not just lie there. I found this really interesting and actually, I would argue that there are men out there who seek mutual pleasure so it might not be as one-sided as what porn portrays.

    • LauraJ says

      Similar to like social media, I think most people are aware porn isn’t real, but they can still make comparisons. Especially if a partner is always watching a particular type of girl or guy.
      I think a woman can be submissive in sex, but still equally participate and do something other than lying still. I agree though that there are men who seek equal pleasure. Ideally, in real life it’s always equal, but I don’t think much porn shows that. Unless I’m just not aware.

  2. beyo11 says

    it is great to see ladies discussing the subject. Speaking from my personal experience as submissive male over more than 20 years. I have seen a big change in women being more assertive being Doms. more than 10 years ago a Dom women will echo male views of how a FEMDOM should be, things slowly changing with women Doms coming with their own views of what should happen. Porn industry, while still mainly male focused, there are may femdom movies around and I know many of the Ladies I slaved for have learned from them

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s good the industry is changing and more women are starting to come into their own and change the perception of a femdom. I imagine this will keep happening as time goes on.

  3. thelonelyauthorblog says

    You have me smiling Laura.

    Whe it comes to sex, things have greatly changed. I can’t speak for other people’s experiences, but I have found women very open to suggestions and a few who were afraid to make their own suggestions (which is really quite pleasant to see a woman unfraid to discuss sex or her desires). I think it is healthy when a woman isn’t afraid to speak up. I find it refreshing.

    Now, if women are changing because they feel “forced” or pressured, then it is a veery bad thing. I certainly hope that isn ‘t the case.

    And I do believe the days of vanilla sex are gone.

    • LauraJ says

      Glad I made you smile Andrew.

      I think it’s healthy as well when a woman communicates what she wants – likewise with men. It’s ultimately how two people get the sex they want.

      I think there will be definitely be women out there who have felt pressured. I’ve had that experience before and it took me a while to gain the confidence.

      Sometimes vanilla sex is good so hopefully not entirely gone 🙂

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