After a run with my sister, I felt a tingling pain stab my right shoulder. A familiar feeling, usually indicating a near dislocation. Instead, the next day I awoke to a frozen arm; unable to lift past my head. Modern medicine prescribed me pain killers and cream. I’m healing myself by improving my wellness lifestyle. A way to shift my mind’s focus.
Quitting the fast option
In January I blogged about society’s dangerous wellness obsession. People fixated on improving themselves by buying hassle-free products and following straight-forward techniques – cutting down on technology; writing a gratitude diary. While these ideas count towards a wellness lifestyle goal, to me it’s naïve to assume health restores itself this simplistically. As though years of self-hate and doubt balance out through notebooks and social media bans.
My dear friend Neeta wrote one of my first Style of Laura Jane posts about balanced detoxes. The word detox elicited images of me as a teenager feeding my body juice and air. Neeta inspired me to re-evaluate the meaning and find empowerment in banishing harmful toxins. I believe wellness requires continuous learning comparable to self-journeys. And before you can begin making steps, it’s helpful to hone a plan.
What exactly do you want your mind and body to achieve? If you felt at your optimum, how dissimilar would your life and decisions appear compared to now? Where’s the destructive behaviour stemming from? These questions I wonder. I struggle to trust myself, often desiring advice from friends regardless of their understanding. Sometimes as a writer I seek approval from friends who don’t pen words.
My wellness lifestyle healing
Although I’ve counted myself healthy for years, I’m not a doctor’s ideal patient. Anxiety – today seemingly normal, stress and on and off again habits form my daily life. Often a big event closes in on the calendar and my scheduled meditation gets replaced with “what do I wear?”, “what if I miss my train?” and “let’s discuss every worse-case scenario”.
When speaking to Guru Ashta, I learnt to say I. So I feel lonely and I don’t feel good enough – not do I look lonely compared to them and what if they don’t think I’m good enough. Likewise, my colleagues don’t like me is really I don’t think my colleagues like me. Ashta taught me to observe, to consider patterns I’ve formed through habit and choices I’ve made actually by choice.
For example, I’m obsessed with organisation and everything looking a certain way. This I believed was programmed in my DNA. Most probably, I adopted my mother’s perfectionism psyche. Ensuring plates in my cupboard align with one another doesn’t fulfil me, yet I do it – everyday. I call myself a free spirit but follow habitual tasks for seemingly no reason. Being aware of this, feels more healing than jotting positive self-love mantras.
Rise from a place of love
In spite of mantras not being my thing, Instagram self-love concepts do play a role in my wellness lifestyle. The idea of filing my nails and relaxing in a hot bath with bubble floating endlessly. These kinds of tasks naturally deserve adequate time. Not that we all have hours to lavish upon ourselves. Putting rigid time limits on indulgence nonetheless feels stressful. Telling yourself you have 20 minutes to pamper, somewhat places joy and stress together.
I know it sounds cheesy and equivalent to patronising “well done” statements, but rise from a place of love to store love within your system. If you’re hoping to eat healthier, consider what you can eat before what you can’t. Appreciate the nutritious food you’ve eaten before mentally judging the chocolate and crisps devoured.
From my personal wellbeing journey, I’ve realised positivity powers me to follow tasks. The reason I use to despise working out for example, was because I’d never pushed myself to reach post-workout endorphins. I’d never had a happy experience. Only when I memorised what it felt like to endure sweat and tiredness did I continue sourcing new exercise routines. Likewise, with diet, I had countless trial and error meal disasters until I figured how to satisfy myself with plant-based ingredients.
Health looks distinctive
There’s numerous tips and steps to practice for a great wellness lifestyle. Drinking lemon water in the morning, meditating, yoga, cooking from scratch, steaming, facials, smoothies, hiking and wearing SPF regularly, to name a few. I think it’s easy to become weighed down by the overload of options. Not everything is going to work for every individual.
My emphasis remains on nurture. Drinking a glass of red wine as I type, reading leisurely and slow-cooking my favourite French stew. Walking an extra 10 minutes with my dog and stretching a second longer usual. I discovered an article on the tenets of wellness, exploring ten factors to contemplate.
This month I began my Instagram poetry account @laurajanepoetry. The account forces me to draw creativity each day of the week, reflecting on my mindset and where my thoughts are leading. To me, a wellness lifestyle doesn’t have to equal suffering. Nor does it equate high expense. Questioning and analysing what we do, attempting to change and experiment with mundane repetition – our mind’s and bodies can detox to reach the aspirations we dream.
How do you feel about a wellness lifestyle? Do you have habits you do daily which seem almost pointless?