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  1. Beyoutiful says

    I never really gave importance to self-respect much and would always nod to what people told me to do but over time, esp after reading your posts and other articles online, I kind of take the time to ponder over these questions. I’ve started to take it seriously and I feel that it def is really important to build self-respect by being confident about yourself and taking the time for self-care. I feel that women need to stand up for themselves and their choices and not let men or anyone have control over their goals, desires, etc. Love your posts girl, always inspiring

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you lovely! I never gave much thought about feminism or female empowerment until I started researching topics for my blog. I think it’s so important women stand up for themselves and think about their choices without overly focusing on society stereotypes.
      It’s important to have self-respect because one thing I’ve learnt, is if you don’t have it, not many people will treat you with general respect.

  2. questionsfromateenager says

    Laura – this is SUCH a good article, perhaps my favourite of yours. Everything you wrote here hit me like a brick. Self-love is something we hear a lot about nowadays and though it is great that it is getting so much attention, self-respect is just as important. To me, my own self-respect started when I stopped feeling pressured to do things I didn’t actually want to do. Things that would make me feel guilty, disgusted, appalled at my behavior. Things I once swore I would never do. I crossed a lot of lines, especially in my teenage years. My self-respect happened when I started acting like myself. When I did what I actually wanted to without fearing judgement from others. My self-respect started when I stood up for myself and fought against people who treated me like garbage.

    This was such an important, thought provoking read!!

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!!! Self-love is talked about all time and like you say, while that’s great, I feel more needs to be said on self-respect. The term is linked to sex and what a woman wears but rarely talked about in terms of actions. Like not being weighed down by opinions and giving in to pressure etc.
      Thank you soo much for your comment! x

  3. The Life of Jea says

    I’ve never thought about self respect…
    For me it’s a lot about if I love myself and do things that are good for me, that I like, that I want, then I feel good about myself and my life. And if I feel good about that, I feel like that’s self respect, to me.
    I think I managed to get that into words the right way, it’s more like it’s “stuck” as feelings and hard to get into words 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      You wrote your words beautifully! I wouldn’t change a thing :). People talk a lot about self love and self care, I thought the idea of self respect so interesting.
      I’ve always thought about it in terms of how others perceive me. Not wanting to look a certain way etc. And I’ve finally realised it’s about respecting myself enough to live my life freely. 🙂

  4. Stormy Dormy says

    To me, self-respect means to love yourself unconditionally. It means to not critisize yourself. To not be abusive toward yourself whether that’s in your mind, out loud or physically. Self-respect means to treat yourself how you’d want others to treat your loved ones. To accept your shortcomings and to not see them as failings but instead to forgive yourself for being human. Self respect is setting yourself the high standards you deserve and believing that you don’t deserve to settle for anything less. It means dressing however the hell you want to, and never doubting your decisions. Taking confidence in who you are and being unapologetic about it. Confidently and truly believing your worth. Simply loving yourself unconditionally.

    Self love and self respect are pretty synonymous to me – self respect being a more specific form of self love. If you truly love yourself unconditionally you treat yourself with respect unconditionally.

    • LauraJ says

      I love your description! I always seperated self love and self respect as though two different things. I didn’t link self respect to the way I viewed myself.

      I’m glad I now realise it is about being confident who you are and the choices you make. Writing this post has made me aware of how many negative thoughts I tell myself and why it needs to change.
      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment. 🙂

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