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  1. The Life of Jea says

    This!! This is possibly the best I’ve ever read! I agree on every word!
    Like you said, men aren’t called difficult, they’re strong or powerful or something. We on the other hand are “hard to deal with”. If that’s what they want to call it, fine, call me difficult or anything, I’m proud of it 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!! This is the exact message I wanted people to get when reading this. It’s about saying okay – society is going to call me difficult as though it’s negative, here’s me saying difficult is great.
      Rather than arguing and trying to defend why I’m not.

  2. Beyoutiful says

    Can totally relate! All these years, for the past 15 years, I’ve always been so nice and putting everyone first (being selfless). I’ve always listened to my parents in being the perfect daughter and I never really gave importance to feminism. Now, I’ve realized that I need to focus on myself and my dreams first and I’ve started to really support and encourage feminism. I feel much happier and more confident being a strong woman and yes, people might not like difficult women and boxes women too much but I personally enjoy difficult women and we def need more of those out there. Awesome post girl ❤️

    • LauraJ says

      I’ve started really encouraging feminism as well. It’s something a few years ago, I didn’t think twice about. But as I grow and focus on myself, I’m realising how important it is. I feel happier as well. Sometimes there’s guilt when saying no or sticking up for myself at first but then it goes away and I feel strong. Thank you for reading lovely. x

  3. trithisworld says

    Really enjoyed this. I’m also going through a period of realising (or not really realising, I’m know I am) ‘I’m too nice’ and wont say fully how I feel for the fear of hurting others. I prefer the notion ‘strong woman’ to difficult. Just because you do what’s in the best interest of you, doesn’t make you difficult, but instead strong and all the more beautiful. Keep hustling & stop at nothing!

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! I used the word difficult because I think for some, women who are ambitious and determined are seen negatively. So I wanted to use a negative word and say actually, this is a great thing. I get where you’re coming from though and agree that it doesn’t make you difficult by doing what’s in your best interest. Thank you for reading! 🙂

  4. sarahscupofbeauty says

    The title captivated me. So I had to read this article :D! I agree with every word you said, except that I don’t like the sound of “difficult woman”. It’s demeaning in itself. I’d rather say a strong woman, someone who knows what she wants, who knows how to love herself, who knows how to respect herself, a powerful woman, a smart woman,… Any man who’d say that a woman is difficult really has his brains in his balls or he doesn’t have any… Glad my man understands the subtle difference… xoxo Sarah

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Sarah! I think women who aren’t easily persuaded and have their own thoughts and ideas they’re not afraid to share etc, are still associated as difficult and potrayed negatively. So I wanted to take this ‘difficult woman’ idea and showcase it in a good way. To me difficult woman is not demeaning because of how I choose to look at it, but I understand your point. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment! xxx

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