“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times”. Charles Dickens penned this quote in A Tale of Two Cities. Carrie Bradshaw believed Dickens was experiencing an affair with a married lover when he wrote it. I believe he’s describing a lifestyle blogger. Centuries ahead of the game, right?
Jokes aside, my blog has caused me aggravation, confronted my darkest thoughts and lifted me to kite-high freedom. Sometimes I’ve poured my heart out and shed a little tear, other times I’ve written pieces that have kept alive memories. Reading my experience in Ibiza and Barcelona, I can instantly witness the words play out the past.
Saying goodbye and hello
My old posts are photographs. Bad hair mistakes and clothing disasters, thoughts out-dated and beliefs still ingrained. Some say it’s just a blog. It’s a place you write and try to get others to read. And maybe so, depending on what you post. Mine is a memory trove. My ex best friend was my best friend when I started. We (I) tirelessly discussed colour schemes, lifestyle blogger categories and articles. I think she’d be surprised to see how far my writing has gone.
I didn’t think much of digital friends, at first. How close can one get? The answer is very. It’s incredible being able to chat with people across the world each day. Connecting on numerous levels. If your offline friends haven’t experienced your pain, confusion and heartache, you can bet your online ones have. Occasionally they disappear. Perhaps they stop reading and commenting, or they shut down their sites and social-media without a trace of past conversations.
I’ve learnt to not over think it. You can only continue to write and wait to connect with new people. The minute you start to plan blogging too meticulously, you begin to lose passion. As a business adventure for many, I understand the need to watch figures and check stats. But as a blog writer, you cannot let go of the reason you started. If you joined purely for materialism, you’ll often burn out quicker.
Conquering fears and emotions
Bloggers – particularly lifestyle bloggers, have possibility to reach their deepest vulnerability. It’s one thing to write in a hidden diary; another to post it online for anyone to see. I always felt frustrated with the pieces published in magazines. It felt too vague and typical. Watching Sex and the City, I thought about Carrie’s column. I thought, how did men date her knowing she’s writing such revealing information in a newspaper?
Then I thought, where do you go to find such raw writing? And not just about love but about life. That’s when I switched my categories and began voicing my opinion on every subject I felt tied towards. I never know how interesting a personal piece like this will be. I only know I’ll feel ten times better for sharing.
Motivational speaker Les Brown gave a speech on dreams. He said when he asks people if they’ve done everything they can, they often say no. Most people can’t see themselves past a certain thing. They cling to jobs and relationships because they’re comfortable. They don’t know what they want to do because they can’t see themselves achieving. Held back by fear, which does absolutely nothing. Instead of going at life head on knowing that goals are tough and setbacks are necessary. He said, you’re going to fail at points in life regardless, so you may as well fail doing something instead of fail while sitting.
Lifestyle blogger success and marketing
My blog keeps me doing something on days when I feel like sitting. Overall, I’m not a full-time lifestyle blogger though I’m earning income and using my site as a platform to try new things. I filmed my first YouTube video – awaiting editing before being official, and I’m excited to announce my first newsletter.
Melina recommended Mailerlite which is super easy and fun to use. MailChimp for me is quite stressful. I want my newsletter to be an email worth reading. If you’re blogger, you’ll relate to having to delete constant spam from gain follower accounts and companies who add you to their mailing list without permission. I want a newsletter that’s fun and interesting. Rather than – oh great, another email to delete, it’s ah, time to read.
The plan is to make it light and quicker to view than a blog post. It’s like taking all the good bits and putting them together, from tips and recommendations, to personal confessions, humorous stories and positive information I’ve researched. As a shameless plug, I’d love if you can sign up and add your email (on your phone you need to scroll down, and on a computer, you need to go to the right-side column to subscribe.
Do you call yourself a lifestyle blogger? What are your blogging ups and downs and how long have you been blogging? It’s always interesting to know.