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  1. Paolo B. says

    Definitely an introvert myself. Have come to grow into it and know my strengths and weaknesses the older I get. I like how you went over some of the characteristics of introverts as I never really knew the actual definition. My friends are def a mix and I think it works but always find myself to connect better with introverts in random settings. Embracing who we are is so important thx for the read Laura!

    • LauraJ says

      Until writing this post, I didn’t know exactly what being an introvert meant. Because people assume it’s just someone quiet, when it’s not that straightforward. My friends are more extrovert, and so it’s nice being able to connect with others online who are more similar to me. Thank you so much for reading Paolo!

  2. The Life of Jea says

    A few years ago, two women I knew met for the first time. They talked a bit and the first one, that I’ve known the shortest amount of time said (about me) “but she’s so quiet, you almost have to force her to talk!” and the other one just looked at her and laughed. She asked “are you kidding? She never shuts up! She will talk your ears off all day long!”
    Both of them thought the other one was exaggerating (don’t know how to spell that), and I didn’t say anything.
    But the thing is, the second person listened when I talked about things close to my heart (pretty much all science related things), and the first person didn’t, she only listened if the conversation was about things on her list of interests.
    I’m always told I’m “extremely introverted”. I’m not, it’s just that I’m not interested in talking to someone who won’t listen to me 🙂
    As a kid, I was told I was boring, quiet, needed to get a life, get smarter (because quiet ooobviously mean stupid, sigh) etc. It’s horrible the way some introverted kids are being treated, adults too for that matter.

    I wish every introverted, or quiet (for whatever reason) person knew that they are absolutely perfect they way they are, and that there is nothng wrong with them. That it’s OK to be themselves <3

    • LauraJ says

      I am so glad you commented! Your last paragraph especially – that is what every quiet or introvert child and teenager needs to hear.

      I think people judge too quickly. Recently I met someone who is very loud and a non-stop talker. She instantly took a disliking to me because I was quiet and not like her. Had she took the time to chat to me, she would have realised we had a lot in common.

      Conversations relating to science sounds awesome to me.

  3. galwaygirlabroad says

    Found this so interesting! I’d never considered the different aspects of being an introvert – I’d always assumed it only related to social situations! Looking forward to reading more of your posts! 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! I’m so glad you enjoyed reading and appreciate you taking the time to comment! When I was researching, I was quite surprised as well. I had a kind of assumption that an introvert was someone shy and who keeps to themselves. But it’s far more complicated than that.

  4. Jyo says

    This is Me and I relate to this so much Laura…
    It’s so hard for me to shake off that image people have me as the “quiet, meek, fragile, sweet etc” girl because it’s so hard for me to put myself out there. I’m too much of people-pleaser and have almost zero confidence. Also I fear rejection from other that I unwillingly put on this “sweet, fragile” persona in public settings.
    Often, once I start to get to know people better or I do something outside of my visual quiet persona, people feel so shocked as if I have been hiding my true personality from them, when really it just takes a long time for it to come out. A lot of people feel that they don’t know the real ‘me’
    It’s good to know that I m not the only one

    • LauraJ says

      I’m really glad you can relate to me. When I talk about this with my close friends, they struggle to understand.
      As a teenager, I did everything I could to try to shake my quiet and sweet persona. Because it was looked at so negatively. But I never could get away from my awkwardness.
      It takes a long time for someone to get to know me as well. Despite not meeting in person, I can’t see why anyone would want to reject you in any way. You’ve always come across as a beautiful, creative, talented woman and you’ve managed to connect people worldwide on your blog and Instagram.

  5. hoiyinli says

    I’m been an introvert all my life and as I continue to develop my confidence (surely but slowly) and interpersonal communication skills, I know I’m an introvert for life.

    I used to be painfully shy as a kid. I hid behind my mum’s legs before when she tried to introduce me to a family friend. I still get really shy about certain things now but definitely no where near to that level. I’ve faced comments of being boring before which isn’t exactly appealing but I enjoy my own company. I like my bouts of catching up with friends now and again though and am happy to get involved in social events or stay out a bit late when the occasion calls for it.

    I also used to be painfully quiet in school and whilst I remain mostly a quiet soul, I am definitely considered a lot more vocal than before – speaking when I want to or maybe when I need to. I seem to hit it off with certain people though and can talk the night away at times. (When I find people like that, it’s a pretty magical experience for me who’s quite a strong introvert.)

    I’ve had a bit of a rough week at work and have had thoughts that extroverts would seem to have it easier at a job like mine where talking to customers everyday is required. The problem is that I try really hard at something that maybe an extrovert would be more natural in so I am questioning this part of my life right now. This post was very much needed to remind myself that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert and that we can flaunt our talents and/or find a way to match extroverts – just differently. So thanks so much for the post! <3

    • LauraJ says

      My mum is an extrovert and she use to love inviting friends round. She would practically have to drag me down the stairs to say hello because I would get so nervous. I was always hiding in my bedroom.
      I think calling someone boring is just a weak comment. I’ve had it said to me so many times, and I’ve come to realise that the people who said it, just didn’t know me. Or didn’t bother to take the chance to get to know me.
      Like you, I’ve struggled with being a quiet soul and placing myself in jobs where I’m surrounded by extroverts. But extroverts have their issues as well. And areas which we find easier, they struggle with. I guess the question is, do you like your job enough that you want to work on getting better at talking to customers or finding it easier etc.
      Thank you so so much for reading and commenting! It means a lot

      • hoiyinli says

        Thank you! I feel better since then. I think I just had a moment where things got a bit too much but I’m on the right track again. Sometimes a nasty thing called self-doubt just gets in the way! I’m back to working at getting better at talking to people and being more confident in doing so 🙂

        • LauraJ says

          I’m so glad to hear it! I get what you mean. Sometimes out of nowhere, I will just have a few days where I start questioning everything, and then I’m okay again.

  6. neetafitness says

    I love this! Finding your inner strength to be able to gather your thoughts on your own, as you’re anle to spend time alone. Introvert or Extrovert, I think being content with who you are is key xxxx
    Thank You so much for featuring my book! ❤️❤️❤️

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Neeta! Happy to feature your book because I loved reading through it. I completely agree with you, being content with who you are is the most important thing.

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