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  1. Megala says

    Wonderful post! Happy New year to you & your family!!
    I don’t feel ashamed of portraying myself feminine, because this is what I am, I don’t want to please anybody around me but I like to do what makes me feel comfortable & happy.

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Megala! I hope you and your family have a fantastic 2019. I think you have the perfect attitude. It’s about doing what makes us individually happy and comfortable.

  2. The Life of Jea says

    I love to look really feminine, the make up, nailpolish, dress etc. But I’m sick of the attitude I get, like I’m stupid. What’s wrong with a nice flowery dress, heels and a big smile? “Are you reeeally gonna wear that?” Yes, yes I am!

  3. Beyoutiful says

    Same here..I’m always about the new year, new me thing as well! I’m def a girly girl and do dress feminine with dresses and accessories. I don’t really bother what people think of me but I have my signature style which is to be simple yet elegant even if it looks feminine and that’s what portrays my personality. I always believing in being yourself and it really boosts my self-confidence. Great post girl 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you lovely! I love when you post your accessories. It’s something I’m trying to buy more of. Like my aim this year is to have a closet full of hats.
      I think we have similar style. I have in recent months gone quite edgy but I’m trying to find my feminine side again. 🙂

  4. hoiyinli says

    I’m all about a New Year New Me persona at this time of year! It’s true that it shouldn’t take the new year to flaunt a new you however I think it’s a great way to define a new chapter of your life and cease ties with some things from the past year and move forward with the new. I particularly like exploring a new style at this time whether it’s getting a new hair cut (something I did today but have been planning since November) or developing a new wardrobe.

    I used to be a proper tomboy in high school and then got a bit more girlier when I went to university. Despite so, I am not the girliest girl that you will meet nor do I think I’ve changed that drastically. I mean…I am still me?! I don’t know. I think the problem is we rely on labels too much. It’s already been noted that both genders have been struggling for some time now in identifying as being this, that and the other. We need to be more flexible and realise that there’s more ways to be a woman or to be a man than just appearance alone. Am I any less of a woman because I don’t dress sexy or masculine enough?

    • LauraJ says

      Your hair looks amazing! I think it suits you really well – you have the perfect face shape! I use to be a tomboy in school as well. I’d live in trainers, and then in high school I went more girly.
      To me, the problem is that we have old fashioned views on what our labels mean. So masculine is strong and powerful, and feminine is gentle and weak. If we said actually, femininity is about embracing yourself as a woman and being strong, whether in a suit or dainty skirt, and being a man means also embracing yourself and accepting moments you don’t feel powerful, we would be okay. But then I guess there’s now gender neutral etc.

      • hoiyinli says

        Thank you for your generous comment! Everyone has been really kind about it haha. I definitely don’t feel that I have the perfect face shape – it’s so chubby at times!

        Trainers are still my thing but I’ve become a little bit more feminine in the last year by wearing boots more often too. Never been into flats though as they hurt my feet and I tend to get blisters wearing them.

  5. myfavethingsblog says

    This is so true! I love dressing “feminine” and I love that kind of style. I do believe that there is still a stigma attached to dressing more “girly”. I feel like women are only appreciated when they dress more like men or when they dress “sexier”, like you said, as though they have more drive and opinion than those who decide to embrace a more feminine style. Of course, all style is great, and people can wear what they want. I just agree with your thoughts on the media only portraying women as powerful when they dress in masculine or sexy attire. Although, it could be said that, why does what a woman wears have to do with who she is as a person? Maybe the problem is that we rely too much on the media to tell us how to think and how to live our lives. If we want to dress in lace and florals, so be it – and we can still be powerful and opinionated and sexy while we do it. If we want to dress in masculine blazers and emulate a business-like behaviour, while still being both feminine and sexy – we should be able to. Great post, I loved reading this!

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you so much for reading, and for this comment! This is exactly how I feel. I would love to see a leading female role where the character is strong and powerful, whilst wearing dresses and pink nail polish.
      I do think what we wear does have a lot to do with who we are. I think our clothes are a way of expression and an extention of our personalities. Which isn’t to say we should be judged.
      Sexy women always seem to be a little promiscious and wild. Like these women you can’t tame. It’s rarely an introvert in a skirt who doesn’t need to prove her power. x

      • myfavethingsblog says

        You’re very welcome! And yes you’re very right! I think that too, it is a shame because I would love to see women like that too in films! It would make me feel a little less like I have to change how I dress to feel powerful and strong. I think maybe films based on historical moments where the women dressed more feminine portray strong women, but there aren’t many in today’s media x

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