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  1. Jyo says

    Again a phenomenal post Laura !
    As we move into an era where people aren’t scared to push for greater respect for self-expression through what you (do or don’t) wear, today’s feminists understand that feminity is an asset, not a weekness !

  2. Melina Elisa says

    OMG, this post. Like I literally have no words, because your words have mirrored my exact words. I definitely believe that it is a female’s choice in how they should dress, no matter how much or how little they are actually wearing. Probably one of my latest favorite post of yours for sure xx

    Melina | http://www.melinaelisa.com

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!! I’ve become so sick of reading articles constantly talking about what a woman is wearing. As if women are to blame and men only go for girls wearing revealing clothes. xx

  3. Beyoutiful says

    Love this post! Women need start supporting each other a bit more and still can’t believe feminism is still going on. I hate that women still get judged based on the clothes, behavior, etc even till today. Yes, we don’t need to justify to men who we are. They should be able to let us be ourselves and support us for who we are 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!!! I find that’s the issue – a lack of both male and female support. I find feminism still has such a long way to go, and that in itself is a little scary. Thank you for reading girl. x

  4. vividual says

    Another post that is 100% on point.
    I’m getting so angry sometimes when other WOMEN tell me that the way I dress or the way I present myself to society is too provoking. I’m not trying to sell myself as a sexual object here? I’m just trying to be confident and love myself. Even my own mum sometimes makes comments on my outfits. The other day she said about me wearing a cropped top that it’s vulgar. I was shocked. Not because of her being “mean” to me but because of the way she thinks about that. For hundreds and thousands of years women were told that they can’t show their body in exactly the same way men did all the time because they’re just trying to attract men’s attention. Goood it’s freaking me out. Us girls should stick together and not fight each other for someone being more confident. I’m not a porn star so everything I do doesn’t have anything to do with me trying to sell myself as a sex object to some disgusting men out there. AMEN to your post (even though I’m not very religious haha). I love that you’re so confident about speaking the truth. I love all your posts Laura

    • LauraJ says

      My mum has made comments before as well! I got so mad last week when I went to work wearing a dress and ankle boots. Women were giving me double glances, and my dress wasn’t even short.
      It’s amazing how male nudity is so much more okay. And women showing any skin is purely for a man – I hate that notion as well.
      I’m not the most outspoken in real life, my blog is my outlet to say whatever. I really appreciate that you enjoy reading and that you even take the time to read. x

  5. Helene (AngelSpartaness) says

    “If I choose to wear a mini-skirt and you choose to assume character traits about me, that’s irrelevant to me as a person.” I love this! I adopt this very same attitude and it really lends to the overall theme of my latest blog post, which is a super similar topic as this. It excites me that someone else feels the same way!

    Overall, I think that feminism and nudity are very closely linked. You cited the fact that no one chastises David Beckham for posing in his underwear, at least nowhere near the same way famous women get criticized for posing in various states of undress, up to and including nudity…This is a great point to make because I think it is a great example of men being considered the better or “top” gender and them having more freedom because of that. Really, that’s all it boils down to. Nudity is a human’s natural state, men are able to assume that state because, well, they are just allowed to. Women’s breasts are meant to feed their children but when they try to do that very thing in public, they are shamed. Why is that? Especially when a man can run topless outside wherever he wishes, save for most businesses, and no one ever thinks twice. That’s very curious I think. So, women are not allowed to present our bodies in the same way as men, and when we start trying to, I believe most men’s–and perhaps brainwashed women’s–first instincts are to try and correct the natural order or things, so to speak. In this case it would be reminding women that their bodies are only to be on display if it is for the pleasure of a man, be it for entertainment or arousal or whatever. When women start doing it for marketing purposes, such as the famous women you mentioned, or just because, I think these types of people who are offended by it see it as some sort of personal slight. Maybe they inherently subscribe to the aforementioned backwards way of thinking, or perhaps they are just rendered insecure–a lack of confidence and self-worth that stems from comparison.

    At any rate, I’m rambling now, I think my point is that feminism is the belief that all genders are equal, and if that’s the case, why shouldn’t women’s bodies be given the same respect and freedom as men’s bodies, in all its various states and shapes? It seems simple to me but apparently a lot of people do not see it that way. Anyways this was a very eloquent article as always and an entertaining read, thank you for sharing your opinion x

    -Helene

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to write this comment.
      I think it’s disgusting how some guys walk round everywhere with their shirts off in summer. I’d never think to take mine off – and especially in a place where people are eating.
      It is crazy that women are almost taught that to be sexy is to strictly impress a man. But I guess it also depends on what sexy is. To me, there’s far more to it than just taking your clothes off. I completely agree with your points here and glad you feel the same way. x

  6. K.M. Sutton says

    Another amazing post beauty! And it does come down to choice. and everyone minding their own damn business. I feel as women we are quick to judge other women if they don’t live up to our standards. That isn’t feminism, but the opposite and shows men that if fellow women don’t respect us, neither should they. People (women AND men) should do what they want (with-in reason) if a woman is confidant enough to show off her body, go for it. I have spent to many years, hiding myself away because I was ashamed of how I looked, and not fitting into societal standards, owning who I am and flaunting it not for anyone but myself is the epitome of female empowerment, and what feminism is. <3

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you lovely! I was the same – always worrying how to fit into society’s standards. Women can be really judgemental. Especially when they see another female wearing something they don’t approve of. But that really does ruin the strength of female empowerment. x

  7. thatfeelinginside says

    Really loved this post gal! I think about this sometimes and it does really get a little confusing. I can fully see why we as women can find nudity powerful and freeing because still it is something we are judged on. For the longest time it was like our nakedness was only meant for the enjoyment of men and now were trying to take that back. It’s not abot our looks or how we dress, it’s the message were putting out there xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!! I think for me, I find the idea of being able to sometimes show more skin, freeing because I was so insecure about it when I was younger. xx

  8. questionsfromateenager says

    THIS. This post is so important. I feel like the most common issue is that the female body is sexualized so damn much. It NEEDS to be desexualized. It’s a body. Nipples. A butt. Everyone has them. Great post Laura, I felt like you structured it perfectly. xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you girl!! I can’t believe how sexualised nipples are. Not saying I think women should walk round town topless showing them, but people are so disgusted if even a hint of one shows through a top.
      xx

  9. Infinite Living says

    I love how you combined red and pink in your outfit – a very different combination to me. To me feminism is more about expression of personal choice and personality that one can naturally carry with ease, and without being judged.

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you. I have never put red and pink together either, but for some reason I gave it a go and I think it goes nicely. “a personality that one can naturally carry with ease” – I love how you put that. It made me realise how many women are afraid to show their true selves.

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