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  1. hoiyinli says

    Interesting read. I have never properly watching Love Island but due to Twitter, I felt like I knew some of the drama of what was going on. I had heard about the past Love Island contestant who committed suicide due to the trolls on social media and sadly, her boyfriend did the same a few weeks later. I heard from my workmate that shortly after Love Island was over, people were posting rather nasty things on Megan’s Instagram. It’s a rough ride. What she did wasn’t right but no one deserves that type of treatment.

    • LauraJ says

      I agree – people forget that it’s a show. Megan really gave a lot of people entertainment, it’s ridiculous that she got so badly attacked afterwards. And I know that if she was a guy, the situation would have been seen as different.

  2. questionsfromateenager says

    I read an interview recently with Jennifer Aniston where she said that she was sick of being labeled as “damaged goods” because (and this is so true) when have you ever heard the media call a man a “spinster”? I think a lot of the people in the media nowadays, influencers and such (Lele Pons, Hannah Stocking, …) who have a very young audience, are transmitting these horrible values to young kids in the name of “comedy”. Things like cheating with your friends boyfriend, best friends fighting over the same guy,… What is that teaching young kids?! I’ll be the first person to admit that I actually enjoy watching Love Island. It’s reality TV, something I have had a soft spot for ever since first watching The Hills. But I agree that there are a lot of things wrong with the way the show approaches romance, the way others undermine their friends so easily just to get what they want. It’s all in the name of entertainment I guess… Great post!! xx

    • LauraJ says

      Yes, I read that interview as well. I really like Jennifer – there’s something about her that’s just honest and refreshing. I hate how the media keep trying to make a successful millionaire, feel like a failure for not having kids.
      I don’t know the influencers you mentioned, but it is a shame their promoting bad values.
      And I love The Hills! I use to watch Laguna Beach as well. It’s easy watching after a long day. Thank you girl for sharing your thoughts!! xx

    • LauraJ says

      I should have explained Love Island better! It’s a UK reality show set in Spain, where singles live in a villa and try to find love. The winners end up winning money.
      Thank you for reading lovely!

  3. Maisie Thompson says

    This was so eye opening!
    I watched Love Island and although I disagreed with what Megan did entirely! She ended up being hated on social media whilst Wes was let off… It’s not right and I think it’s a real shame that everyone started knocking her and her appearance down just because she did one bad thing, however in the end it all worked out for the better! Although I would find it very difficult to forgive a friend if she did that to me, I always believe there’s a reason things happen in life and better things will come from it…

    • LauraJ says

      That’s such a good point – Wes got off SO much easier, despite him saying he was falling for Laura and even sleeping with her after weeks of dating.

      I do agree that things can happen for the better. I suppose the easiest way to forgive, is if I moved onto a better partner and felt happier. But it would still be incredibly hard to see your ex love with your friend. Thank you for sharing these thoughts!

  4. Melina Elisa says

    I’m watching love island but I’m about 10 episodes from this season’s finale (even though twitter already spoiled the winners, not that I’m surprised). I do believe in girl code, but I guess not in the stereotypical format that you mentioned here. My girl code, is basically about not trying to hurt one another, going behind others backs, and being there when they need you the most. My girl code consists of building each other up, making each other feel good about ourselves, and being the support system we need the most. While I guess betrayal in terms of romantic relations do play a part in “girl code”, I don’t honestly thing it’s the most important/only rule in girl code. You do bring up lots of interesting points that I honestly never considered. Great post Laura ! xx

    Melina | http://www.melinaelisa.com

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Melina! I understand what you mean and believe the same, that a girl code should represent far more than romantic relations.
      I think my problem with girl code, is how it’s used to further target a woman who has somehow not been a good friend. Like men seem to get off lighter, and don’t have a bro code thrown in their faces.
      Maybe it’s how I see the term in the papers and on Twitter, it just feels like an extra way to attack a woman. Instead of just saying actually that was wrong, girl code or not. xx

  5. The Life of Jea says

    I don’t know what Love island is, so I won’t say anyting about that. But to forgive or not? I think it’s a case-by-case for me, depending on how the persons involved handled it.

    And I agree. If I’ve betrayed you, I have, girl code or not.

    • LauraJ says

      Love Island is a UK reality show where singles live in a villa in Spain, trying to find love. About 3 million people (mostly young) tune in each night to watch.
      Forgiveness is such a hard topic for me, because I can’t say what I would do in a situation. In my head I am super tough and believe I’d never forgive, but deep down I kind of think I would struggle with that, unless someone REALLY hurt me.

  6. K.M. Sutton says

    I was so excited to read this, because all of my British friends are obsessed with Love Island (we don’t get it hear) and I have been hearing tidbits. I also imagine it is somewhat similar to The Bachelorette or Bachelor Paradise (which I am obsessed with)
    I agree with you. I think the phrase Girl Code could be considered antiquated especially with gender and gender neutral terms in todays society.
    That said I feel like it is an accurate term to describe just being a good person and friend which doesn’t just apply to women but to everyone (I know guys have “Bro Code” too) To me stealing your friend’s man is so far extreme (Because like you I would NEVER do that) that I think of it more in the terms of would you post a shoddy picture of your friends to make YOU look better, and are you talking behind their backs. Is that really a good friend? Is that girl code?
    I don’t know if that is a naive way of looking at it, or a skewed way or if I am just rambling lol, but that is how I usually think of it.
    And while I am all about you doing you and making yourself happy, is stepping all over your friend and breaking her heart really making you happy? And what does it say about you as a person? I think it is different when you go after a friends man, then a strangers. Which might seem like a double standard. Ughhh I totally feel like I am rambling but his is such a good post, and such good food for thought. Thanks for sharing beauty! <3

    • LauraJ says

      So if I’m right, The Bachelor is about one guy who has to choose between a group of girls, narrowing them down each week until he finds the one? We’ve had a few shows like that in the UK and maybe because of the channels they were on, they didn’t do that great.

      Love Island is a little like Big Brother, but everyone is young and looking for love. To win, you basically have to be in a couple and get voted to stay by the public, and sometimes by other contestants.

      With girl code, I don’t think that’s a naive way of looking at it. In theory, I would love if that was the only way girl code was viewed, but it’s often mentioned a lot when a woman has done something wrong.

      I guess with a stranger, you feel less guilt because you don’t know enough about them to feel an emotional connection. Even though you’ll probably feel guilty, you don’t really have to face it.

      I would hate if a friend of mine dated an ex I once loved, but if they were both perfect for each other, I’d feel like a villian if I tried to get in the way. If they went for my current partner, I’d be beyond devastated.

      Love your long comments by the way – ramble as you please! x

  7. thatfeelinginside says

    I’m not sure I could ever forgive a friend if they did that to me, especially the way megan was smirking about it! Just so not on, like if my friend told me she liked a guy I liked then i’d be understanding but the way she went about it was so wrong xx

    • LauraJ says

      I’m not sure if it’s the way it was edited, but it felt like Megan just suddenly liked Wes out of nowhere. The whole thing was quite strange. I don’t agree with the way she went about it, but at the same time, I think on a show like that with people you’ve just met, there’s not much loyalty.
      It’s different if it’s a good friend who suddenly went for your guy. It’s a horrible situation, and I’ve never been in a position of being in love with a friend’s partner, or having a friend try to steal mine.
      Thank you for reading and commenting! xx

      • thatfeelinginside says

        Yeah i’m in such two minds about the whole thing because I do think they edit it a lot but the thing that got me most is recently when Megan was slagging off Laura so long after xx

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