The sun is burning through our umbrella and tanning our skin. After copious amounts of sun-screen, we combine the heat of black coffee, with the chill of an orange and carrot smoothie. I want to discuss a positive difference.
I hate the thought of being selfish. Sometimes I leisurely choose when to text, but I always expect a rapid response back. At times, I have excuses I can’t justify. My drama is me, me, me, when in reality, it’s so small and insignificant to the world.
I use to demand my mum to finish a full day of work, head home before the shops shut at 8 (on a Thursday), and buy a whole new outfit for me to wear on a no school uniform day. If I had to create a homework project requiring her help, I wouldn’t inform her at first notice; I’d wait until the last-minute.
If we were having coffee, we’d also be eating pancakes
I’m a pancake monster. Equally cookies, however I try to ban myself from them as I have zero control. Munching our way through, I confess how much I’ve grown. My ego has shrunk, because I’m just a small person in a big sea of life.
The world owes none of us nothing. We try to claim it, but it’s all chance and luck. Wherever our parents and ancestors planted seeds, we simply bloomed from them. Unfortunately, some of us bloomed is prosperous countries, others wilt through the eyes of famine or a war zone.
I know how much I’ve changed. Never have I really classified myself as selfish. I’m known to always put people before me. If someone calls or asks for help – I’m there. If I see someone being treated badly online or feeling down, I will message them support.
I cherish my friends and my family, including my dog who dictates me – seriously, he chooses when to cross the road and I just obey. He asks me to go sit outside with him, and I just sit outside like I’m an outdoors person.
Trying to impact a positive difference
So yes, I’m not a selfish, bad person. I drink my smoothie and I tell you this. Nonetheless, I’m cooped up in my bubble. I don’t contemplate my impact. I’m not an influencer; what on earth would I influence?
I have ‘followers’ and people who read my blog, though I don’t spend moments pondering if they’re affected by me. When I say this, I mean, I don’t believe a reader changes their entire day because of me or goes out and becomes a new person. Though if they did, that’s awesome!
Dissociating myself from any influencer tag; I’m querying why. An influencer is not purely focused on fashion, fitness and beauty. We’re all influencers. We don’t need x number of fans or people to buy clothes we suggested.
Each and every day, we all have the power to edit a mindset – whether in a good way or bad. We all have the power to say one simple line, that can potentially stick with a person for the rest of their life. It took one girl to say no one would miss me when I switched school’s in year 3, to leave a rejected print on my soul.
My words can educate and inform
My blog is lifestyle, and I try to include a wide variety. I talk about sexual assault, mixed-race fetishism; feminism issues and women’s magazine marketing. I like to believe I make a person think. Not in a particular way – just think.
On occasion, I also want to tackle and address worldly issues. The stuff you read on the news, often covered by intellectual journalists who daren’t write about measly lifestyle topics. The shrunk ego inside me, always shy’s away. Afraid of controversy or poor writing.
If we were having coffee, I’d asked what positive difference you want to make
We consider it egotistical to talk about others and our impact on them. This feeling – who on earth do you think you are? And I wish that could change. Maybe if we thought about our impact on others and removed emphasis away from ourselves, we’d live happier and more fulfilled.
We’d realise a boy not texting back, is not something to waste a week of tears over. Our boss not liking our work, doesn’t mean we’re going to get fired, not have a career, live alone and never have money. Our blogs not reaching whatever monthly target, doesn’t mean our words are pointless and no one cares.
A positive difference, small and large, should always be made
We’ve finished our pancakes, our coffees are cold, and there’s a hint of smoothie left. Our conversation finishes on a conclusive high.
Making a positive difference, doesn’t always mean saving the world and travelling to countries in need. On a daily basis, we can all implement great change. Remove our anxious, analysing minds, and take a piece of another person’s heart.
Don’t you ever want to say – lighten up. Stop being so dramatic and stressed about your problems. Write a friend a nice message instead. I’m not saying we’re not allowed to have problems or we should feel guilty. I’m saying it’s not a bad thing to open our hearts wider.
Make a positive difference to others and ourselves. Spread kindness and give our ego’s some credit. Being afraid is not worth giving up our desires for.
Do you believe it’s important to always think about your impact in life? If so, what kind of things do you try to consider? As examples, acts of kindess, environemtal issues – plastic, waste, problems in society etc.