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  1. Julia says

    I am so grab you chose to publish this post and to get the word out there, you are seriously incredible. I’m so happy you chose to report it as well, that creep deserves to be punished though to he doesn’t do it to any other girls!!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Julia! I’m confident that another girl will eventually report him if he continues his behaviour, and then there will be mutiple cases against him. Hopefully he get caught soon! x

  2. vividual says

    Thank you so much for sharing this! You’re a really brave and strong person and you should be proud of yourself. You did the right thing and I wish I had done it too. Unfortunately it’s too late now and the person who did this to me committed suicide a few years ago. I sometimes feel like I can’t get closure on it because I never reported it. I was way too young back then to realize what happened and I was scared that people wouldn’t believe me that it was against my will. Sad that society does that to us. I wish I had done the same thing like you.
    Sending lots of love xx

    • LauraJ says

      You know, I only managed to report what happened to me after meeting a girl who had the same thing happen to her, by the same person. So she was there encouraging me. Otherwise, I don’t believe I would have come forward.
      You really can’t blame yourself at all. What helped me, was writing down everything that happened and how I felt in my diary. It was super tough and I did cry, but I felt I got some closure after.
      It still frustrates me that this guy is still out there and probably still assaulting women.
      I’m so sorry for what happened to you. It might be worth contacting a support line or finding a friend to talk to. I’m always here though if you want to chat, feel free to email. xx

      • vividual says

        I understand, it’s hard to share these stories with someone and especially to report it. Thank you, I appreciate your words. I’m working on getting some closure at the moment so I hope I’ll be over it soon. Thank you for the offer! You’re very kind xx

  3. Melina Elisa says

    you are so brave. I’m so sorry to hear something like this happened to you. It’s crazy to think that your mind was so powerful in terms of being to block something so traumatizing in your life in order to protect yourself. I’m glad you finally reported it, even if the case got dropped. It definitely was sexual assault, even if it might have not felt like it at the time. Great post Laura xx

    Melina | http://www.melinaelisa.com

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Melina!! It is crazy, because for an entire year, I didn’t even think much of it. It’s only when I had to report, that I suddenly burst into tears and couldn’t stop crying. The whole process taught me a lot, and I’m just glad it’s out my system and I can now move on. xx

  4. K.M. Sutton says

    Girl you are so incredibly brave and strong to have come forward and to have shared this. You aren’t a victim or weak, you are strong and courageous and you have helped more people then you know. Sending you so much love. <3

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you hun!! Really sweet of you to say. I feel so much better about it since sharing. It’s a huge weight off my shoulders. x

  5. Huda says

    Thank you for sharing this with us! I am sure it was not easy and I am so sorry you had to go though this! It is so true how our mind often convinces is when something bad happens to us that it wasn’t that bad after all- I am glad you took the leap and reported this incident! Sending you lots of love! xx
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    • LauraJ says

      Thank you girl!! It felt good to write about it because I think it’s helped me to get a lot of my feelings out. xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! It was tough and I remember at the time when I reported, I kept doubting myself and thinking – is this worth even sharing? But I am glad I went through with it.
      The way I see it, if he continues to do what he did to me and to this girl I met, someone else will eventually report him. And then he will have multiple claims against him. x

  6. Keri L. says

    I’m sorry you had to experience that… It makes me so angry!!!!!! But thank you for sharing, even though I know it had to be hard, because someone is going to find at in this.
    I stand with you and every one else who has suffered at the hands of such horrible people. Wishing you the best.

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Keri!! I think sharing my story was the final part of me letting go and moving on. It was a kind of healing experience. x

  7. Jen Standing says

    This post made my stomach turn. That being said, I can’t thank you enough for sharing. I never did report what happened to me and it’s something I still regret to this day. It’s weird how we minimize the things that happen to us, but when we find out another person has been affected the same way we realize that it’s not okay. Again thank you for sharing.

    • LauraJ says

      I’m sorry if you’ve had a similiar experience. I only went to report what happened to me after seeing this other girl who the same person also assaulted. Otherwise, I probably would have gone about my life acting as though it never happened. I think sometimes we are taught to be strong and positive, and in going forward and recognising what’s happened, it’s like you are admitting we are a victim. If that makes sense? x

  8. whatismaria says

    I am so sorry to hear you’ve had to go through something like this. You’re very brave for sharing your story and helping anyone out there who may be thinking of coming forward to report a similar incident – after all, the more these criminals are brought to light, the more likely they are to be punished accordingly. It’s a shame that the case never went to court, but as long as we as women keep speaking up and keep raising awareness, change in the justice system will come about. I’m fortunate to have never been through assault myself, but stand in solidarity with everyone who has. Wishing you all the best Laura xxx

  9. thatfeelinginside says

    I’m so sorry you had to go through this lovely. I remember when I reported my sexual assault I felt so weird and ashamed about it at first. The whole thought that people would think I was overreacting or being dramatic really scared me. I was too afraid to tell anyone for ages. Since the Harvey Weinstein scandal it has just made me realise just how common it is. It’s so upsetting to realise just how many people have had these awful experiences. I’m glad you decided to report it, it’s always so scary to do. Hope you’re okay, you’re a strong person and putting this out into the world is such a strong thing to do. Have a lot of admiration for you. The feeling of feeling unsafe and exposed is what really got to me. I constantly felt ashamed and nervous after, it still gets to me now that another person can make you feel like that. Sorry for the massive comment xx

    • LauraJ says

      No need to ever apologise for the length of your comment! I’m really glad you did take the time to share this with me, as I completely relate to it all.
      You were super brave to report what happened to you, and I’m equally sorry. I was worried about people’s reactions too. Maybe thinking that they will blame me or just think, stop being so dramatic.
      I find that sexual assault is unbelievably common, but some offences are just not discussed. The amount of women I know who have just been groped when out is quite shocking. I’m glad at the very least, the Harvey Weinstein scandal has encouraged people to come out and share their stories. I really hope it continues. xx

      • thatfeelinginside says

        Me too, i think the more people that talk about it the better. For a very long time I was so nervous to talk about what happened but when you realise other people aren’t afraid to speak up I think it helps alot xx

        • LauraJ says

          It 100% does. I obviously am not happy that what happened to you happened, but it’s nice knowing someone else is out there. So again, I really appreciate you commenting! xx

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