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  1. K.M. Sutton says

    Girl YES to all of this! I admit I am in the minority, but my perfectionist self thrives on criticism. Being told I can not do something makes me just want to do it even more. A part of me enjoys proving people wrong. <3

    • LauraJ says

      I don’t think you’re in the minority. It is an amazing feeling when you prove others wrong and also to prove to yourself, that you’re worth more than people’s expectations! x

  2. Kerry LifeandLoves says

    As someone who has never been afraid to show my ambition, or work my arse off to get where I wanted, I was often under scrutiny and criticised. I have always found it hard to take, purely for the reasons that in my working life I a a perfectionist and hate that I have ever left any room to be criticised. It frustrates me, but I always learnt from it. I learnt as i got older that the saying “your opinion of me is none of my business” in my personal life, is so true, and I tend to live by that. Im a very positive person, so always try to remember that uncalled for nastiness or bitchiness is often just projection of the persons own insecurities. that way I can wish them well and move on. i don’t dwell on it. You can tell how much you have grown as a person Laura, and Im thrilled for you xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Kerry! That’s great advice…”your opinion of me is none of my business”. I’m a perfectionist too, and it use to really get to me that I couldn’t control this is one area where people were saying stuff. But like you said, it’s usually more about them and less about us. I really appreciate your comment, it’s made me smile this morning! xxx

  3. Infinite Living says

    I agree – if they are talking about us, we are definitely doing something different and powerful 🙂 Depending on what stage of self perception I am at I believe that other people’s opinions have either motivated me or just made me look at them as interesting people with interesting views.

    • LauraJ says

      As always, I love how you summarise. That’s very true, sometimes opinions motivate me, and other times they just make me curious about the person. I think it depends on how I feel about that person and also how I feel at the time.
      Thank you for reading!

  4. Karen Wodstrup says

    Oh Jane! I love this post – like I really do <3 First of all the topic is just so relevant and important to discuss. However, what's even more amazing is your point of view on it and also the bad experiences you've had. It makes me SO sad and SO upset that people have to put their mark on everything we do – Like leave me and my work alone. What are people thinking when they write these sorts of things, that it's just okay and that it wont effect me. Of cause it affects me, because I'm a human being! Just all in all obsessed with this post. I truly hope you'll have an amazing Summer! xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you so much Karen!! It’s so frustrating right? Like there’s enough to worry about in life without others being judgemental!
      I just think people become so wrap up in themselves and their lives, that they say comments without giving much thought. We should never let them affect us though! Hope you have the best summer as well! xxx

  5. questionsfromateenager says

    Laura, I love this post much. Just because I used to be that person who took each and every form of criticism as a personal attack on me. And naturally I started to defend myself even though some people were only trying to help me. I guess that’s just something I had to learn over time. Now I actually embrace advice, whether it be good or bad. It’s nice hearing an outside perspective every once in a while, it makes you stop and think and maybe it even pushes you to do better.
    And jeez I missed your writing, I am currently trying to catch up with every blog! xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you girl!! I really appreciate now that I have honest friends. Even when their opinions hurt, it’s kind of good for me to hear. And I agree, it’s great to have an outside perspective.
      I’ve been so behind on blogging at the minute. I’m trying to write a couples of articles today that I can spread throughout the week. xx

  6. hoiyinli says

    I love the Monopoly metaphor you used right at the beginning! So true. I think you have to gamble a bit in life but also learn to not take the piss i.e. don’t step on people’s territory and upset them on purpose as a result.

    Good for you that you have the strength to strive for your ambitions and dreams. No one should ever have to tell you differently. X

    • LauraJ says

      Yes, I don’t believe in just going up to people and saying whatever to them.
      I do believe as well that you have to gamble in life. Sometimes it fails and sometimes it doesn’t – but you always learn from it in the end. Thank you for reading! xx

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