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  1. Mrs.S LDN says

    You nearly gave me a heart attack with that headline… I was like Noooo, she cant be leaving me!!!
    I do love your blog and i completly get what your saying and where your coming from!! I had something similar a while back and completly gave up on the numbers side of things. I think thats the killer part. All that hard work and nothing really for it. Then I changed my mindset, or as you say, angle and started being like sod it, I’m doing this for me, what I wanna write, what I’d wanna see…. Sincee then I’m back and loving blog life again!!
    Every now and again I’ll get back to focusing on the numbers and I need to drag myself away… its just not worth it!!
    So glad to see your sticking around, dont know what we’d do without you!!

    • LauraJ says

      The numbers can really screw with you right! I like them as a guidance, but when it becomes an addiction, it’s just not worth it. I ended up checking mine after every post and analysing – so boring!
      Thank you for saying that. It’s nice to know that I’d be missed if I left. I’ve found my footing again and I’m feeling better about it all. It’s lovely seeing you back blogging.

      A few weeks ago, I was thinking about the bloggers I’ve started with and how many a long the way have just vanished. It’s quite an isolating thought. I love that we started round the same time and we’re both in our second year. xxx

      • Mrs.S LDN says

        So borning and lead you down a hole you just cant get out off. I find if I focus on it so much I lose my creatitvity and the viscious cycle just gets worse!
        Glad to see you got your mojo back, sometimes a break can be a good thing to bounce you back stronger!!
        I was thinking about this to, its definatly not everyones cup of tea for sure.
        It is lovely to see how we have come along in blogging and how we have improved and strengthened with it. Promise I’ll kick your ass if I see you disappearing on us hahahaha xxx

      • Mrs.S LDN says

        Oh and another thought on the bloggers who stop it, imagne being at it 6 years like some of the bigger bloggers and how theyve seen blogs come and go. The dedication they have to stick at it with all that going on, I say fair play!

  2. Lander7 says

    Instead of going in a direction I simply follow inspiration. My own blog features things that I’m curious about that often go ignored elsewhere. I don’k see it as a need action but rather as something I do when I feel inspired to post.

    • LauraJ says

      That’s a good way of seeing it. I’m trying to write more now when I feel really passionate, and not just for the sake of writing because it’s been a day or two since I last posted.

  3. K.M. Sutton says

    I have been blogging long before blogging was “cool” and “monetized.” I have had countless blogs, and blogged on what seems like every platform. It has been a journey and definitely an evolution. There are times where I have felt like I will run out of things to say or that I am being less then true. There are days where I don’t enjoy it as much as I feel I should. But then that is okay and even normal. It is normal to fall out of love, and completely normal to stress out about things. It means it is important to you. If it wasn’t you wouldn’t care. We all go through periods where even our passions can be tiresome, but it doesn’t mean you are less of that hobby or less of a person because you aren’t interested. You just need to take a reset. and that it is completely fine! Huge hugs to you beauty! <3

    • LauraJ says

      That is very true. I have blogged nearly every day or every other day since January last year, so although it’s not been years and years, it did make me realise just much dedication has gone in. So a reset was certainly in order. I have been thinking of new ideas and a new aim, and hopefully that will inspire me to keep pushing forward in blogging.
      Thank you so much for your input 🙂

      • K.M. Sutton says

        You are very welcome sweets! I love these posts. I think it definitely will! Being creative is hard. I feel like there is this voice in the back of my head that says I will run out of ideas or it isn’t good enough when in reality there will always be something to draw from and a new direction to go in. Happy blogging sweets! <3

        • LauraJ says

          I’ve realised that a lot of it is to do with changing direction. I’ve started reading different things and even watch some old Sex and the City, and suddenly I have ideas again. xx

  4. Infinite Living says

    I have found myself space out my posts even though I have enough content. I have found it more enjoyable now to go with the flow of life and freely make other choices without the pressure of having to post. That way I get to enjoy this space too.

  5. Melina Elisa says

    I have never fallen out of love with blogging, but I have only been blogging for about a year and a half. I have felt a little bit lost, and not really knowing where to go, what to write about, and what’s next. I feel like it’s just like our lives. There are moments where you are full of ideas, motivation, and moments where it’s the complete opposite. You’ll find your footing again, and I can’t wait to see the direction you and your blog take xx

    Melina |

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you girl! I think I have a new direction now, but I’m kind of going with the flow because I don’t want to pressure myself to having to stick to something specific, while I’m experimenting.
      It really is just like life! My blog is very tied and I think it’s just been screaming out for change. xx

  6. It Girl says

    I love this! I’ve been blogging for almost half of my life and every time I ended up ditching my site because I didn’t “feel it” anymore. It’s hard to constantly feel the pressure of writing about what you suppose to be writing about. Whereas, it’s very easy to fall into this never ending routine. I think it’s very important to try to new things, to see what works for you best. We all grow and can’t be blogging about the same things all the time. My blog a few years ago was literally a child’s blog. There was no knowledge to it, no logic. I would post stupid things without dwelling into the subject. Now I know I have changed and definitely want to use my site to express myself. At least from time to time. I hope you will rekindle your love towards blogging because I truly love reading your thoughts!

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!! I admire that you’ve had so many blogs. I wanted one when back in high-school but was so fearful of anyone I knew reading, or finding out that it was me.
      It is really easy to fall into a never-ending route. I kind of felt like I was tired of what I was saying and what I was doing. My blog use to inspire me and I miss that feeling.
      I’m experimenting now and seeing what I can do with it.

      • It Girl says

        That’s all you can do! The only advice I can give you is that I regretted abandoning my blogs every time. It’s better to experiment or give yourself a much needed break sometime (or at least not delete it completely!)

        • LauraJ says

          Yes, I won’t delete because of how much hard work I have put in. I’m just going to give myself time to experiment 🙂

  7. niccimcshane says

    What a great post Hun, I’m going through a phase right now. Not that I’m falling out of love with it but struggling for the inspiration, does anyone even care if I don’t blog? I think sometimes a short break and time out for us to reconnect with ourselves can help, I’m hoping it does for me anyway. I love the way you have written this and it resonates greatly with me xxxx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! I’ve taken a few days away not checking anything blog related, and it has really helped. Sometimes I think we can get so caught up, that we have to kind of untangle ourselves.
      I hope time away allows you to reconnect and refocus. I’ve noticed a lot of bloggers have stopped posting and that’s probably affected things. xxxx

      • niccimcshane says

        Thank you! Time away is definitely helping and I think I need to schedule breaks and not put so much pressure on myself to blog as frequently as I was and not get too bogged down and obsessed about the stats xxx

  8. Beyoutiful says

    I totally understand you girl! I haven’t fallen out of love for blogging. I love connecting with other bloggers and so grateful they enjoy my work, but I don’t focus so much on making sure I post like every week, and getting followers, and the numbers, etc. I just think of it as a passion and write things I’m passionate about and that really changes everything. Rather than focusing on it as a chore or a job, think of it as something that you makes you inspired and happy and am sure that you will fall back in love with blogging again. Write something that makes you happy and do it because you want to, not because you have to 🙂 I love your blog and every single post and girl, you always inspire me <3 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      I can always count on you to make me smile and to lift me up! 🙂 I really did lose the passion, and I became so caught up in trying to produce content I thought my blog should have, rather than what I really wanted.
      And actually obsessing about stats and figures, hasn’t changed them. I’m really going to try and change my ways and fall back into the original reasoning behind creating this! Thank you girl – I truly appreciate you!! 🙂 x

  9. lifeofangela says

    I get where you’re coming from Laura. I went self-hosted almost a year ago, and my stats have never gotten to the same place where they were before moving over. It’s definitely improved since then, but there’s ups and downs. I don’t really promote my blog outside of WordPress, sometimes a little on Insta, but that’s it. After taking a break from blogging for two weeks though, it’s helped me get out of the mindset of numbers. I kept trying to push it to the back of my head, but I would look at stats everyday and track them, trying to see which posts did better for whatever reason. Now I’m wondering why I got locked into that mindset. It’s definitely important to stop and think about how you’re running your blog and which direction you want to take it in. I’m currently going through that with mine at the moment too 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      That’s exactly what I did! I became obsessed looking at my past posts and seeing which one’s performed better. It’s like I did everything possible to suck the fun out of blogging. The past few days, I have avoided my blog, but also asking what I actually want to put out there.
      I’m going to try and not get anxious about stats. Mine are on the up, though as not as they once were before self-hosted.
      I’ve been trying to get more active on Twitter and Pinterest. It’s hard to get followers from Instagram because the app is set up to encourage people not to go off and click on links.
      I hope you choose your direction soon and that it goes well! 🙂

  10. whatismaria says

    I’ve reinvented my blog several times for this exact reason – I tried following the rules and the advice you frequently hear, but that completely eroded my authenticity and the whole thing felt like a chore instead of a passion. In particular when I was blogging about food several times a week, I felt like I was following a formula and it just didn’t serve as the creative outlet it was supposed to be. Recently, I had to take another break because I was in Japan for six weeks, which gave me the time I needed to think about exactly where I want to go in order to maintain my passion and I think that I am getting closer to an answer. In the end, we just have to listen to our hearts and do what we think is sustainable and interesting for US, as hard as that may be in light of algorithms, rules, competition, etc. Thank you so much for sharing your insights and for the transparency of this post xox

    • LauraJ says

      It’s so nice to see you back blogging!! Japan for six weeks sounds amazing!
      That’s exactly how it feels regarding a chore instead of a passion. Like I’m writing for the sake of writing. I’ve had a think these past few days, and I’m going to try and push through and focus more on new writing topics, and less on all those blog rules.
      I’m glad that you are getting closer to your answer and I hope it continues for you. I guess blogging really is a journey and sometimes the travel gets tedious, so you find a new route. xxx

  11. Always Cleia says

    I still keep up with blogging but lately it’s felt like a bit of a chore for me. I was feeling really encouraged before I went self hosted, but once I did my growth came to a complete stand still and it’s become harder and harder to get the views and engagement I was hoping for.

    I agree that it gets old seeing the exact same makeup tips over and over and over, but when I read your makeup tips post you had a lot of tips that I’d never thought of or heard before. I hope you find a way to fall in love with blogging again, I love your writing!

    • LauraJ says

      That’s exactly what happened to me when I went self-hosted. My views have started to go back up, but that’s only with a lot of social-media and constant promotion. I have noticed less bloggers now though. A lot of people I use to communicate with a few months back have disappeared.
      I guess with makeup, I have an upper-hand of previously being a makeup-artist. But I feel at a blank at the minute with giving tips – maybe it’s a weird phase I’m going through. Thank you for saying that though! I’m going to try and push through and come up with new some new writing ideas that will hopefully inspire me 🙂

      • Always Cleia says

        I still haven’t mastered the art of social media, it’s so hard to get people from one platform to another It comes in waves, I had a lot of people that I talked to a lot but one day a bunch of them just stopped blogging/commenting too. most of my readers are bloggers themselves so when they stop blogging they just leave 🙁

        Yes that helps a lot! I hope you’ll be able to come out the other side refreshed and inspired

        • LauraJ says

          My one tip with social-media is to try and also follow non-bloggers. On Twitter, I go round following lots of people and I find that really helps! It is in waves though.
          I have some new plans that I’m going to try and implement now, and hopefully that encourages me to get more inspired 🙂

  12. Kerry LifeandLoves says

    Yes! I have felt this in a huge way. I wrote a blog on my post about changes I felt I had to make, as I felt like I was too random. The ironic thing was, writing that post on change made me realise and remember that I write my blog for me. Its not my job, I have no ambition for it to become my job, I just want to create discussion and enjoy sharing my finds. Thats it. The minute I remembered this, it took away the pressure I was putting on myself, and Im back enjoying it. A change I did make though, was to stay away from social media more. I felt it was leading me into the comparison game, and I hated that. That is NOT me at all! I now go on social media just 2/3 times a week and it has been good for me. Find your happiness. Decide what you want from your blog. You will find your answers xxxx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Kerry! Social-media is a tough one. I quite like Instagram at the minute, but things like Facebook and Twitter – I don’t really talk to people or connect. So I have to keep reminding myself to go on them.
      I’ve noticed a lot of bloggers are going through this transition right now, where they decide to change their content and take away all the stress of solely focusing on views etc. Maybe it’s a natural thing for a blogger to go through?
      It’s great you are enjoying blogging again and you’ve found your balance and what works for you. Which is definitely what I think it’s about. xxxx

  13. Chloe Luna says

    I completely feel this and I’m so glad you shared it with us – I’ve never fallen out of blogging as such but instead kind of made it to be this thing in my head where I thought I had to just grow and grow and comply with all these rules and get bigger and better which eventually ended up with me writing blog posts that were not authentic to me at all. You’ve probably seen through my posts lately but I’m having a whole revamp with my creative process and going back to the reason I started this blog in the first place – to use it as a creative outlet and somewhere to share my passions. I don’t know how I ended up with as many followers as I have right now because I’ve never tried to market myself or turn this into a job – I’ve never tried to become a brand as such, I just shared my words and writings and journal excerpts etc. and people somehow seemed to like it and therefore followed me, so I have to remind myself that in that sense I must be doing something right. I have to just keep sharing and creating and being true to myself like I did when I first started, back when I had no followers, because numbers have never really mattered to me but the more people that did read my blog I always put pressure on myself to give them something bigger and better, when in reality they followed me because I was being myself and they liked what they saw. I hope this made sense, I feel like I’ve just rambled here but I hope you get what I mean – I also hope you manage to fall in love with blogging again, try and take yourself back to why you started in the first place and rediscover your creative processes, thank you for sharing this .xx

    • LauraJ says

      Yes! The pressure I have put on myself to get bigger and better every month is crazy!! It’s really draining and completely takes away all the fun and initial satisfaction of sharing my thoughts.
      Your blog has this natural branding ability. Every post of your’s is consistent and very open. It’s like you pour your heart in each piece and that makes you stand out.
      Since going self-hosted, I have had to brand and work on social-media, otherwise my stats would drop, and maybe that’s what’s causing all the pressure. Like I feel so guilty if I forget to post on Facebook or tweet etc.
      I will be taking a leaf from your book though and going back to emphasising the creativity. I completely get what you mean and you’re absolutely right – if people are following, they are loving exactly what you are doing so there’s no need to change. Thank you so much for this!! xxx

  14. Lise says

    I fell out of love with blogging on my main blog after about two years, the pressure was too much, I spent too much money on nothing and it just didn’t provide any happiness. Thousands of comments and 700+ follows didn’t matter anymore at all. I completely cleaned it out and started over, now I just write whenever I have something to talk about and it works so well. I don’t know if I’m fully in love, but I’m able to write without hating myself for it. I hope you’ll find something that works for you!

    • LauraJ says

      When I first started blogging, I was so excited about the idea of growth. It was the best feeling to see more followers, comments and views etc. But this year, it’s just stressful trying to constantly gain higher each month and be on some forever momentum.
      I can see why you cleaned it out and started over. And I also get about writing when you actually have something to talk about, because I use go crazy forcing myself to create new ideas everyday.
      I’ve had a brainstorm and I’m going to try switching up my topics and stop fretting over daily stats and worrying about all these unnecessary blog things.
      Thank you for sharing your input and I’m glad that starting over has worked for you.

  15. thelonelyauthorblog says

    The timeliness of this post is incredible. It is almost as if you penned this post for me. I just returned to blogging in January after a year and a half off due to multiple eye surgeries. I find blogging fun, but honestly, at times it i a burden.
    My blog has grown to quickly (not something to complain about, huh?). I believe blogging is all about connecting. Commenting on your posts, hopefully you commenting on mine, and gradually building friendships and bonds. It has become more difficult everyday for me to follow everyone. So, I try to read as many posts as humanly possible, but this task alone, has transformed fun into work.

    I really like your blog, because, no matter what the subject, you always find a way to inject positivity. And that is very refreshing. A few posts back, you and I discussed you may be adding travel to your blogs. I looked forward to learn of your explorations. Unlike my blog which has become solely about love and poetry, you have the flexibility to take your blog in so many directions. I truly hope you discover that magic fire that inspires us to write and blog.

    Unlike mine, the end of your blog would truly be a big loss to Blogworld. Have a wonderful day. This confused blogger/poet wishes you all the best. Hugs


    • LauraJ says

      Yes, if there was ever a downside to blog success it would be this! I don’t get a fraction of the comments you get, so I can’t imagine what it must feel like to keep up with everyone, even though you want to.
      It is hard to read posts though and I know right now there’s people I need to catch up with. And I think because it’s been stressing me out, I’ve been avoiding WordPress.
      I am determined however to keep going and to cut myself some major slack and switch up my topics.
      Still on a positive note though, because that’s the only thing that connects everything together.
      Your blog is poetry but your poems are very diverse and always incredible to read. Most poetry, I can read the words and appreciate, but I don’t necessarily feel much. Yours however, it just connects. It’s an incredible talent to write solely on love and poetry and consecutively have an audience. We both know your blog would be a HUGE loss to the blog world.
      Thank you as ever though, for your kind words and for really taking the time to put together your response. I am eternally grateful 🙂

      • thelonelyauthorblog says

        Thank you for your sweet response. I am certain you can find so many topics to keep you inspired.and maintain your blog fresh.
        Either way, I will be happy to read your posts. As for the blogging reading. Start fresh next Monday. Don’t give it a thought.
        The important thing is that we remember life is short so we should always seek out happiness.

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