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  1. Melina Elisa says

    I don’t know if I was ever called crazy by my ex-boyfriend. Through the manipulations of my ex, I sometimes thought I was crazy. It was terrible. We’re the same way, if I trust and love someone, I give someone my all. I show them the great, the ugly, the everything. I know it might come off badly at times, but I’m not perfect. Far from it. I suffer from mental illness. I try my best, and it hurts when it gets thrown in my face. I don’t really trust people anymore, and it’s the sad truth of getting my “crazy” getting thrown in my face, I don’t know when I’m going to let someone in again. I’m so glad to hear that you can embrace your “crazy”. Great post Laura xxx

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    • LauraJ says

      I suffer from mental health as well which I never actually told my ex. He had a way of saying things – I was too blinded at the time to really realise what his words meant.
      I’m funny about trust too. I just don’t want to go through all the emotions again of falling out of love – despite wanting to find someone.
      I also think though that we were just dealt bad hands and our vulnerability was exploited. Like I give myself a hard time and think maybe I was too much or because I have issues, I’m to blame. When we could have been completely normal and simply reacting to their manipulative tactics. xxx

        • LauraJ says

          If there is a way to risk with caution – I say choose that option. Looking back on my last relationship, I did get too needy when he was pulling away. And I ignored all warning signals.
          So when I date again, I’m going to try and keep honest with myself and instantly pull away when I notice similar patterns. xx

      • Melina Elisa says

        I refuse to blame myself for the issues. If I have friends, who have spend more time periods being my friend and being there, and still want to be there for my, I know we can find partners that don’t suck.

        • LauraJ says

          Exactly! Everyone has issues whether they consider them to be related to mental health or not. No one is perfect so we are not to blame.

  2. K.M. Sutton says

    Another great thought provoking post! I know some people do look at the word in a negative light and get mad when other people use it. For me, I have always looked at it as something unique, and as you wrote, an attribute to being creative and in my opinion fun. Who wants to be normal or always responsible? To me crazy has always signified, letting go and being free. I think words are what we make them, and if we give them negative connotations that is what they will represent, but e can equally give them positive meanings. <3

    • LauraJ says

      Love how you put that!! Crazy is an attribute to being creative – you’ve just made me think that most creative people are called crazy as oppose to intellectuals.
      I think it is freedom and it reminds of that quote which says the most daring thing you can do in life is to be yourself. Thank you for reading! xx

    • LauraJ says

      I completely agree. Everyone has their own ideas of what crazy is and what it stands for. I think there are positive connotations to the word that I want to embrace and be proud of. 🙂

  3. Infinite Living says

    This is a powerful post! I guess it takes being labelled crazy a few times or more before we become comfortable in our own uniqueness and own it. At least we were courageous to be our true selves throughout – to be labelled crazy – so now we can own our power.

  4. jyo says

    Confessing crazy has its own beauty, everyone is crazy in their own way. I don’t believe there is such a thing as a normal human being. We are all completely different. No two are the same. The only difference between a ‘crazy’ and ‘normal’ person is that the ‘crazy’ is not afraid to openly be who they are. If a ‘normal’ person really opened up and showed their true self, i bet they’d be fantastically crazy, i m sure of it☺
    Feels to me that this post is a lot about embracing what really interests you as a person and building your self confidence around what you really love. Confidence plays a large part in one’s happiness, which is why I think this is such a great post

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!! This post is about embracing me as a person. I love that you said there’s no such thing as a normal human being. There’s not – and normal is boring and not unique.
      We all have our own crazy like you say and that’s not a bad thing. x

  5. hell0chloe says

    I knew where this was going the second I read the title and I loved it – one of the big issues I rant about as a woman – men always call us psychotic or crazy, or “the crazy / psycho ex girlfriend” and it’s pathetic. I watched a video of Donald Glover doing stand up the other day, and you know what he said? We always hear about crazy ex girlfriends, psycho ex girlfriends – every male has a crazy ex girlfriend story, but we never hear about crazy ex boyfriends, and you know why? Because the women end up dead.

    It was supposed to be comedic, obviously, but the reason he said it in the first place is because it’s true, which is terrifying. Well done for making this post xx

    • LauraJ says

      That is so true! It’s ridiculous how easily women can be labelled easy or crazy, or even a slut by men.
      I don’t trust men who call their exes crazy unless they can give me a really valid excuse. My ex just used it as a joke, and at the time I moved past it. But now it makes me angry.
      Thank you girl for commenting!! xxx

  6. Beyoutiful says

    Aw, I’m so sorry u were called crazy but of course, you’re not! Forget about what other people say and just focus on loving yourself. I’m glad you’re embracing it and girl, you’re an amazing, beautiful young woman <3

    • LauraJ says

      No need to apologise as I like being crazy 😛 Thank you lovely!! That is my focus – just loving myself and working hard 🙂 x

  7. crystalsandcurls says

    fuck fuck yes. I actually read a really interesting theory thing on this a few years ago about how “crazy” is such a misogynistic insult. Women used to be put in institutions for having “hysteria”; it’s a quick way to dismiss us and diminish our opinions. If we’re crazy, we don’t have to be listened to after all. I’ve remembered it awfully, but I’ll try to dig the link up – I think you’d enjoy it 🙂 xx

    • LauraJ says

      Yes if you find it please let me know! I think it really is a quick way to diminish a woman’s opinions and make them feel as though they are in the wrong.
      And it’s so overused – there are so many other words you can say! xx

  8. Keri L. says

    I refrain from using the word ‘crazy’ because having been (and still often am) described as such, I find it to be hurtful and degrading. It’s as if because I see the world differently, there must be something mentally wrong with me, when really, I’m just displaying the attributes of a woman who is comfortable in her own skin. I applaud you for embracing yourself and who you are. I think this is a wonderful post.

    • Keri L. says

      (I hit ‘send’ by mistake) I think that if people use the word ‘crazy’ in a way to compliment or encourage, they should. I just feel that most people use it wrongly. Your type of crazy is the kind I like.

      • LauraJ says

        I agree. Crazy has just as many good attributes as it does bad. It’s just a shame that some people love using the word negatively.

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Keri! Maybe the people who use the word crazy are just confined and too insecure to not be themselves.
      I think people are so use to just going along with society and doing what everyone does, that anytime someone goes against or decides to be different – they must be in the wrong.

  9. thelonelyauthorblog says

    I think part of this goes back to the male female stereotypes. If a man is possessive, well he is possessive. A woman is labeled crazy. Same thing regarding jealousy and other emotions and actions. I love the way you embrace “crazy” and the reasons behind it. Bravo.

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