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  1. jyo says

    This is such a lovely and heartfelt post Laura, it has been a pleasure to read you through this festival of words, absolutely loved the write up. Keep blogging, keep smiling…take care Laura❤

  2. Paolo B. says

    I loved this, the honesty in the writing and self awareness are inspiring. I can see how dating and having a blog can be different. It’s gives a inside look at a person for sure, but it’s only a peek. We are so much more complex to ever understand I think, and ever growing so what’s written today may not always be true tomorrow.

    I must be living under a rock because this is the first coffee post I’ve read As for me, I’m a tea guy myself ☕

    Good luck on the book!

    • LauraJ says

      That’s a very good point. I was going through my old blog posts yesterday and realised that my thoughts have changed on many of the topics I wrote about last year.
      So blogging is only a fraction of who we are. But people are quick to judge – I wouldn’t let my date see my blog until we were in a relationship.
      And I’ve not pulled you out the rock, welcome to these coffee posts 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Anaida! I have seen the ‘if we were having coffee posts’ quite a lot, and wanted to join in. X

  3. J | thenellybean says

    Beautiful post Laura, and what a wonderful concept for a blog post! We’re pretty similar in the way we fall hard and easily, but hey – that just means we have bigger hearts and lots to give xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! Having a big heart can be seen as a negative – being taken for granted and of course, falling for the wrong person. But I wouldn’t change it, I just wish the right person came. xx

  4. hoiyinli says

    Loved this post! You write really well and heartily. I am a bit of a hypocrite myself when it comes to the self-love bit but we are all learning that it’s a long process and not one that you’re just born with. It takes practice. We have fears and hopes and emotions. I have always kinda firmly believed that you should (learn to) love yourself before you go on to love someone. If you want to write a book, I’d say go for it! I secretly want to record a podcast which is ironic because I don’t like my voice. But it seems like the perfect challenge.

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!! I really poured my heart in this piece. I don’t like my voice either. When I did this poetry video reading out loud, I had to build up confidence to listen to the finished result.
      But I think a lot of people don’t like their voices. If you can, team up with someone for your first to help build up confidence.
      I agree in loving yourself first, or making sure that you have enough confidence to consider yourself before entering a relationship. Self-love is such a long process – I’m there but not 100%.

    • LauraJ says

      I’ve been single for a while and I’m at a point of just wanting to find someone. But then super scared in equal measure. xx

  5. Beyoutiful says

    I love these kinda posts and really enjoyed reading yours! I would have to agree that my blog friends know much more about me than my real friends haha. I also feel the same way..would like to settle down and be in a relationship but at the same time afraid to commit. Would love to hear about your dreams esp your e-book! Wish we could meet someday in person and have coffee sometime. If you would like to talk, you can e-mail me anytime girl <3

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you lovely! The e-book has been on my mind since I started this blog. I have just not had the confidence to properly take the time to plan and put together.
      Coffee sounds great! I would worry that I wouldn’t know what to say as I have shared practically everything already!
      And isn’t it always stereotyped that men can’t commit and women always want to? I might take you up on your email offer soon 🙂 x

  6. Melina Elisa says

    This post was amazing. Probably my favorite out of all you’ve written (and you’ve written some pretty amazing stuff). While you were talking about yourself in relation to love, I felt like you were looking into my soul. I’m a realist, but for whatever reason I’m a hopeless romantic. I want the love you find in movies and books. At the same time, I preach and preach self-love and being kind to others, but I struggle loads with giving myself the same kind of love and kindness. I go over and over in my life, as I’m getting older, whether I actually deserve love? Am I capable of being loved? These thoughts pass my mind more than I’d like to admit. Regardless, I go through life wishing, hoping that someone will come along that won’t tear me to shreds. Funny how life is, isn’t it? They gave a perfectionist with the hopeless romantic gene. Great post Laura xx

    Melina | melinaelisa.com

    • LauraJ says

      I love being a hopeless romantic, but at the same time, I wish that I wasn’t. Sometimes I wonder whether I am the issue and I need to just get over my concept of love and settle.
      I even worry about whether I will end up alone or be with someone who is just ‘okay’.
      I think we go against society. You are suppose to find someone compatible and be realistic. And maybe because we want more, we over question ourselves and wonder whether we are worthy.
      Admittedly, I have wanted a guy to come along and make me feel how I can’t. Kind of give me the self-love that I am missing. I’m much more confident now, but maybe we need to keep taking more daily steps – not that it’s easy! xxx

      • Melina Elisa says

        I think I’m so picky because I’ve seen real honest love. I don’t wanna settle because I want to be as happy as those people are. I know it’s possible, and I know we have to hand in there, but sometimes I’m so impatient, and I get frustrated with the situation

  7. Infinite Living says

    You are a poet at heart I can tell, you know what true love is – your words tell, this such a lovely post with a musical rhythm to it! Now I think I want to have coffee with myself and wonder what would that be like 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      You know, I don’t think I have ever just had coffee with myself. I always have a fear of being alone in public. I wish I could though – maybe that’s a challenge to give myself.
      Thank you so much for your words. I want to write more posts with a musical rhythm. 🙂

  8. thelonelyauthorblog says

    The way you bare yourself to the world is amazing. I love how you said you preach self love then called yourself a hypocrite..

    If we were having coffee I guess I would tell you the decision of dating depends on where you are withing yourself. Your confidence and comfort with yourself, so on. I know the Lucky guy better be special, you deserve nothing less.

    Be happy. Be well.

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! I’m definitely wanting to wait this time and find the right person. I do fall in love super fast, so I will try and take my time.
      I’m not perfectly confident and comfortable with myself, but I have made huge strides in the past few years.

  9. Always Cleia says

    Loved reading this post! I also worry if friends and family read my blog, I feel I can be more myself here than in real life sometimes.

    If you want to write a book I say go for it! Even if no one ever reads it write it for yourself
    I’ve been working on a fantasy novel for a long time and this is the first year I’ve committed to writing once a week, it’s such a good feeling

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!! You know, you have spurred me to start writing. I can at least manage once a week, otherwise I will be here in 6 months still discussing my idea.
      I think bloggers are just less judgemental. Everyone opens up and shares their thoughts, and there’s a freedom in being able to join in. If I tell a blogger that I’m going through depression, they will most-likely share their own experiences. But if I tell my friends, they will not be able to understand.

      • Always Cleia says

        That’s awesome, I’m so glad to hear it! Something that really helped me was finding someone to write with, I procrastinated the heck out of starting mine and then I found someone who was writing similar things. We get together once a week to write now

        I completely agree, There’s so many bloggers that some one is bound to have a similar experience. Whereas friends and family who see you every day are more likely to brush it off. It’s so unfortunate, but it’s nice that the blogging community is here for you!

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