If you haven’t written a post on your New Year resolutions, I am sure that you’ve summarised the last 12 months. I love this season of change, even though I don’t believe in setting your dreams to a calendar and feeling forced to throw away half your belongings. But while the iron is hot and you’re thinking about goals, it’s good to know how to make 2018 your year.
As a disclaimer, I am not a fortune-teller. Of course anything can happen outside of your control that could affect your life. Make you believe that the time ahead is the worst in your entire existence. This is about positive editing that you can have power of.
You write down that you want to get more organised or that you want to improve your career. How so?
You know when you’re tired and you’ve had a long day. Someone messages you a really complicated or blasé text and you just don’t want to reply. Imagine if that person sent a much clearer, simpler message, one that required only a yes or no.
The easier you make it for yourself, the more likely you are to do it. Write instructions; mention that you’re going to spend an extra 20 minutes communicating on social-media, as opposed to saying you want an increase in following.
Imagine the role
What would a successful blogger do now? Or how would a successful person in your dream position go about their day?
When I featured a piece on the mental health charity Head Talks, one of speakers Jamil Quereshi who is a sports coach, shared the advice he gives to his players. If you haven’t yet, you need to watch his video. These talks are so influential.
He asks them what their goal is and then questions how they would be if that goal was achieved. For example, if you wish to be an entrepreneur, he would ask – how would an entrepreneur stand? How would they greet people and what would they eat?
It puts you in the mindset of actually believing that you are that person. It also forces you to confess to what you’re not doing. Sometimes we think we are doing everything, yet a deeper analysis reveals we procrastinate often or spend wasted energy on negative thoughts.
Believe in you
They say you should work hard in secret and then appear once you’ve made it. That’s because high aspirations seem unlikely; others prefer you to stay in a realistic box.
If you don’t have support connections around you bellowing encouragement, that’s ok. The biggest worry is whether you believe in you.
If there’s doubt, you’ll play on that doubt. If you were told that it’s guaranteed that if you hide your phone for two months you’ll receive 50k – goodbye phone! If however, you’re told that possibly on an unlikely chance, you could receive that cash after hiding your phone, you won’t be so keen.
The motivation you store within flows throughout. Keep focusing on your good points, your work ethic and remind yourself why you want it.
As unique and wonderful as we are as individuals, no one holds all the cards in their one hand.
Don’t be afraid to ask for guidance. They say that if you ask a question, you’re a fool for a moment. But if you don’t ask a question, you’re a fool for life.
Additionally, make 2018 your year by taking initiative in contacting. If your aim is to collaborate with brands – email them. If you want to reconnect with an old friend – call them.
Sure, you might receive no responses – perhaps the odd polite no. On the other hand, you become one step further to ruling out what’s not for you. And then in probability, a yes will occur.
Unfortunately, life is unlike the Hollywood movies. We rarely walk down the street and bump into our big break or ideal partner. Usually, we keep going with the same routine. If you put yourself out there, suddenly it’s no longer the same street with similar structure. It’s a new world and opportunities to explore.
Get an attitude
The final way to make 2018 your year is to get fierce. I don’t mean – walk around rude and act like everyone is stealing your oxygen.
Be declarative in your statements. Stop worrying whether you are good enough. I kept putting off my writing because I would say – ‘oh, I’m a makeup-artist, who will publish my work? What if they think I’m stupid for trying to switch my career?’
And then I started getting somewhere and it made me realise that I was wasting what skill I had in creating opinions of people who I have never met. If I had cut my self-doubt and took myself seriously from the beginning, I would be hours ahead.
For people to believe in you, you have to believe in you. Would you want to hire a potential member of your team who informs you that there are far better out there? Remind yourself daily why you are doing what you’re doing and that life is too short to make friends with fear.
How are you planning on making 2018 your year?