Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. Megala says

    I could very well relate to you, I do feel shy & uncomfortable while meeting strangers, but I don’t think I need to change myself because I’m pretty sure that it does not lead to irreversible consequences!

  2. Mahalakshmi says

    I completely relate to what you’ve written about. I have a lot of anxiety when I have to interact with groups especially. I tend to go very silent then, because I am afraid I might goof up in those settings.

    • LauraJ says

      Group settings are really nerve-wracking. I feel that because I am naturally quieter than most, I can be left not speaking much or out of the conversation. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment!!

  3. jyo says

    Shyness is not a bad quality, however shyness may cause to talk less or feel uncomfortable in social settings. Honestly I was extremely shy it felt more like physical block than a mental one. Like my brain was always blank nothing to say, which is probably why for years i was always known as The Quiet One and I had no clue why I am so shy and quiet sometimes. But right now I am very comfortable with everything…once you understand why …then “how to overcome shyness” becomes a lot easier

    • LauraJ says

      It’s so nice to read your thoughts on this. It does feel like a physical block at times. I am finally comfortable with my personality in the sense that I am happy being quiet and an introvert.
      But I hate when I want to talk and suddenly the words don’t come out. I have a rough idea of why it happens and I guess the next process is acknowledging and creating steps to push past it.
      Glad that you are comfortable now and that you overcame it. x

  4. Beyoutiful says

    Ah I always can relate to your stories since we have really similar personalilties! I’ve always been pretty shy since childhood but over the years I try to improve myself and have come a long way. I’m def more outgoing and open compared to my younger years. I’m a pretty quiet girl which doesnt mean I’m pretty shy, its just who I am. I’m pretty outgoing when it comes to girls but shy with guys. I’m shy at the first meeting but once I get to know someone, it’s so easy for me to open up and be friends with them. Being shy isn’t a bad thing at all but I do want to also improve on being a better conversationalist. It’s just a matter of being confident and secure, which I still struggle with even though I know inside of me that I have so much potential. I’m kinda an introvert which makes me a shy person but I feel that if I have more experience and really go out and interact more, I would get better at it. Even though I’m shy in front of strangers, if they open up with a good conversation, I try to interact by just being myself and projecting confidence, which lets the whole friendship grow:)

    • LauraJ says

      It’s annoying right when people link shyness and quietness as one. As though being quiet automatically means that you are nervous.
      I think it does depend on the person you talk to at times as well. If someone is naturally at ease and welcoming, there are less nerves. I used to do freelance work on this one beauty counter where the girls would never really say hi or talk. So I felt super shy and just stuck to myself for the most part. x

  5. whatismaria says

    It almost seems as if I have written this post because I can relate to pretty much everything you’ve said. I’ve never had a super ‘crazy’/outgoing personality. However, once people get to know me I am much more confident and outspoken which by no means aligns with the initial awkwardness I have to deal with when getting to know people for the first time, and just like you I used to rely on looks to try creating a facade of confidence. Of course, there is nothing wrong with being shy but at times people mistake it for naivety and think I cannot stand up for myself. I think that simply realising that this is something I struggle with has helped me get better at projecting my true personality as well as accepting that for some people like me, it is natural to have to work a bit harder when it comes to socialising! Wonderful and thought provoking post as always xox

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you girl! I understand what you mean about people assuming that you are naive. My family would say to me that I have no ‘street cred’ because I am not outspoken.
      I wish that society could see a more introverted personality in the same way as an extroverted. People are too quick to judge. I always want to say – if you wait another 10 minutes before making your mind up, you will see the real me. xxx

  6. Helene (AngelSpartaness) says

    I gotta say, this post resonated with me. I like to think that I am a fairly confident person, but in social situations or when meeting new people, I find myself stuttering, rambling, not saying much, or just finding it hard to interact. That’s another reason why I love writing and blogging, it lets me get my true and exact thoughts out most of the time, without having to worry about tripping over my words or feeling like I’m walking on eggshells constantly. Sometimes I wonder if others perceive me half as awkward as I perceive myself to be. Anyways, thanks again for another wonderful post and sharing this with us x

    -Helene | angelspartaness.com

    • LauraJ says

      I always appreciate your comments. I completely agree in that I feel like a confident person and yet I find myself stuttering when meeting someone new. Or I try my best to appear confident, while inside I am panicking.
      We probably imagine it far worse in our minds than what it is in reality. I think because we are so conscious of it. x

      • Helene (AngelSpartaness) says

        I agree, I think a lot of it is in our heads. Do you also sometimes go through a convo over and over again because you said one tiny miniscule weird thing that you’re sure made you look like a weirdo? Lol truthfully I have many times, but I wonder how many of those times I needlessly worried about it?

        • LauraJ says

          I definitely have done that – or do that! It can be addictive.The book I reviewed yesterday said how we can make excuses for our over analysing. Like we tell ourselves that it’s good because we can figure stuff out, when really it’s unproductive.

  7. Mbalenhle says

    Being shy isn’t a bad thing though . I love shy people because they get me very curious, it’s always the shy ones that know a lot – they are wise and usually give the best advice on literally everything.
    Nonetheless, I have never really been shy to talk to strangers, I feel like I talk to them more than I do with people I actually know. I think being shy when meeting a stranger sort of makes you vulnerable because it gives them a reason to judge you in a sense but fixing this is kinda easy – when you meet a stranger greet them like they are your long lost friend and the rest should flow

    • LauraJ says

      It does make me feel vulnerable when I am shy with a stranger. It sounds weird to say, but it’s like I give them the power to be in control.
      Once I get to know someone, I am the complete opposite of shy. It’s just the beginning. I will try looking at them all as close friends though. x

I would love to read your thoughts!

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: