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  1. Sarah says

    Too funny I just wrote about this topic too (something must be in the air haha) but I LOVE your point about saying no especially when it’s triggered by an interaction that leave a bitter taste in your mouth. So so true!!

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Haha great minds think alike as they say. 🙂
      I will have to read your article. I hate the idea of someone using me purely for their own gain, so I feel really happy with myself that I did not go along with it.

  2. Katie McMinn says

    I think so many people struggle with this, especially women because we fear we are going to be labeled a bitch. I think saying no is a good thing that we should imbrace and accept when we hear it.

  3. Kerry LifeandLoves says

    This was a great post to read. I think women especially are not great at saying no. In fact, for a lot of us we offer to do things even when not asked. Its like there is an expectation to be accomodating and helpful, no matter how busy we are. I am a mum, and I learnt early on that if I dont want spoilt, bratty kids, then I have to tell them no. i wasnt quite so quick at learning in friendships, but Im getting there!

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Women just seem to be linked to having attitudes or being the dreaded b word, if they decide to go against something or say no. The worst is when you go out of your way for someone, and then the same is not precipitated.
      Glad you are getting there. 🙂

  4. Lindsey says

    So true! Why is NO so hard to say? I’m constantly learning to use the word and not feel guilty. This was a great post. I think we all need to be reminded no is an okay thing to say.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I think because it is seen as a ‘bad’ word. We are suppose to say yes and be friendly, but everything has limits.
      When the woman tried to get me to advertise her products, I felt so guilty for not wanting too, even though I knew that I had not spoken to her in years and held no responsibility. I think we almost need to rewire our brains and understand that we are as important as the person asking and we should not have to do something that we don’t want too.

  5. Stormy Dormy says

    Ugh, I struggle to say no. I’m far too nice for my own good! I have my limits – if I’m knackered as hell then I’ll walk away from social events etc at the end of the day. Still need to gain some confidence and say no more often though!

  6. Samantha Kresz says

    Great post. I think especially as women we are taught to just nod and smile. i struggle to say no. I don’t like to let people down. But there is no reason to go along with things that don’t suit my soul.

    • Coyote from Orion says

      Only bullies and predators don’t want women thinking for themselves or expressing themselves. An intelligent and developed mind is attractive in either sex. A shame some people always serve their own desires and don’t listen with the heart. Lack of brains, heart, and experience… the kind of people who get massive material wealth while everyone else takes risks fighting for values and principles (usually as a result of their ‘marketing’). Only have to look at what happened from the 1940’s into 50’s.
      The 60’s was so important yet unfinished because women’s business got busy. Nasty men are always threatened by smart women and alcohol and other compounds of Neptune were the tool the tool taught at the most prestigious boy’s schools. I was smashed every weekend after sport on Saturdays and the voyeuristic culture made me drop out to be a bum as I felt for any girl I was with was then targeted by several boarders always a few weeks later. I felt sick and I felt it was unsafe for women to be with me because of the predatory natures of some of the nation’s elite. Even now they could probably turn a post like this to suit them if they even cared. Entitlement does breed weakness and bad health though in the long run.

  7. whatismaria says

    So much yes to this!! I have always been scared about offending people and losing friendships, even getting to the point where I have people money they never gave back despite promising to do so, and it’s a quality I’m working on every day because we shouldn’t allow people to take advantage of our kindness. Saying no can be difficult, but in the end it builds up respect from others and leads to long term happiness! Thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤️

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Money is tricky one. Sometimes people owe it to someone, but they go round shopping and buy themselves more nice things. People do take advantage of anyone nice and being linked is linked to weakness. I agree with you in that saying no sometimes, builds up respect. Thank you for reading! 🙂

  8. mckennaarlee says

    I have always and still have a huge problem of never saying no. It’s something that I really need to work on. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one with this issue. Thanks for sharing!

  9. niccimcshane says

    This is something in the past I struggled to do. I always said yes to everything even knowing I wasn’t going to do it. Or I would come up with a million excuses and explanations as to why I couldn’t instead of just saying no, knowing I didn’t actually have to justify myself to anyone if I didn’t want to do it. I’m much more comfortable now in just saying no but it took me a long time to do xxxx

  10. Coyote from Orion says

    Some of us males should read a few cues and accept no. Sometimes they are not always easy to read or we are not at our most receptive. It is a shame that some people are only interested in friendship with the opposite sex if sex is going to be involved.
    I find a lot of people very boring in this regard. Having grown up the only surviving son of a professional sportsman and administrator I could write the book on boring people with no regard for each other. The glass ceiling is well and truly intact… especially for truly strong and intelligent women… or am I keeping it there by saying that?

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I do believe that people of the opposite sex can be just friends with no hidden intentions. When I was younger, I had a hard time in saying no. Like when people asked me for my number. But now I can be abrupt, only because I do not want to lead anyone on.

      • Coyote from Orion says

        Yep. Respect isn’t difficult. I suppose each difference has it’s own natural weaponry and education is about drawing out the inherent qualities as in EDUCE… no morality is no education. It doesn’t necessarily happen at school either

  11. lauzieslifestyle says

    It is amazing how a person can appear out of nowhere and then ask for a huge favour. I think the older people get, the more they understand about putting their needs first. As a teenager, I never even thought about anything like this!

  12. SimpleSerenity says

    When I was younger I used to struggle so much with saying no or don’t agree with people around me. When I fully grow up I understood that it is ok to say no, because you have to stay true to your self and not to try to please everyone, that can be really damaging. xx

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      It comes across fake as well, when people just go along with everything. I find I can easily say no when it comes to discussing opinions or sharing my beliefs, but I struggle when people ask favours. It is something that I am still working on. xx

  13. Infinite Living says

    I agree with you completely on all that you say. I love your writing style- beautiful, straightforward and from the heart. I too prefer people being upfront about what they wish from me. I do not enjoy hidden agendas in interactions. I have learned to say what I mean, sometimes a clear NO. I think people have learned by now that I am of no ‘use’ LOL! So I can be involved in something that I care about and that could be self-care.

  14. lifeofangela says

    Great post Laura! I think it’s pushed on girls to be accommodating and help out all the time. But if you need time on your own, then don’t be afraid to say no! I feel like I’ve gotten better at this now, but when I was younger people would ask me for help all the time (mostly for school work since I was the nerdy type) and I found it so hard to refuse even when I had enough on my own plate.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Thank you! I definitely agree about it being pushed on girls to be accommodating. Women who tend to have opinions, can easily be stereotyped.
      But like you say, we should not be afraid of using the word.

  15. Taylor says

    I definitely have struggled saying no in the past. I am an introvert too and sometimes it’s hard to stand up for myself when others can be pushy. Luckily I have been able to push past that and say no more often! Great Post!

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