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  1. sarcasticbohemian says

    I have to remind myself everyday that I do not have to live up to these very lists you talked about. Why are we so obsessed with comparing and thinking we need to be the same place as our friends, family, or the people on social media? It’s tough and this post is appreciated. Time to print this off and read it when I’m down on myself.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Thank you! I think society puts a tremendous amount of pressure on us to reach certain goals by a certain age. We look to the people around us, to figure out if it is ok that we have not reached everything.
      The way I see it now; everyone is unique and we all have our own life plans. How strange and boring would it be, if we all got married at the same age or reach the same position at the same time. As long as you are striving for what you want, I think you are achieving far more than these lists suggest you should.

  2. lauzieslifestyle says

    Thank you for saying that I come across as a cool person :). I do not think you sound judgemental.
    I was unsure of my blogging when I first joined but I do prefer it to social-media now. It is more real and open. The communication is also much better – it’s more than a word or two. 🙂

  3. nadjaklaparevic says

    I used to make those kind of lists all the time, but in the end the only thing I’ve ever achieved by doing that is to feel bad about myself if I don’t complete them. Now I just do what makes me happy and when it makes me happy and hopefully that’s the right thing to do 🙂
    Also, I’m new in this all blogging thing, so it would mean much to me if you could check out my blog https://chickandchic.com/ <3

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I get what you mean. We can be really hard on ourselves and even if we had completed a reasonable amount, we focus on what we haven’t done.
      I think doing what makes you happy is the right thing to do. Happiness is a huge part of success in my eyes. I will check out your blog now. 🙂 x

  4. Beyoutiful says

    Ahh, we both think alike! Nowadays, people are so preoccupied in chasing their goals and working/studying that people tend to forget to enjoy some time for themselves and actually live life to the fullest. A balance between the two esp in the 20’s is really important. Love this post girl <3

  5. questionsfromateenager says

    I love this so much. Even though I am only 18, I can relate because I feel like society pressured me to grow up faster. You should experience various “firsts” by the time you’re 18. I do have this mental checklist engraved in my mind of things I should do before I hit 20, things I should do in my twenties, if I like it or not. Why? Because people constantly tell me that THIS is the time where I do all of these things and after that time it will be too late. The weighing pressure is starting to drag me down because I feel like I am working towards all of these “goals” because I SHOULD. (“this is what girls your age do”) I am however not so sure if I really want half the things I should want.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I can remember feeling the exact same way when I was 18! I was a ‘late bloomer’ and I felt tremendous pressure to do what my friends were doing. I look back now and wish that I just enjoyed it more.
      The problem with this stage is that everyone will divide and pursue different things. For some, their biggest concern is saving up for a mortgage. For others, they want to travel the world or invest heavily into a huge career goal.
      There is not really a right or wrong. However much society dictates, you have to work towards what you want. If I have learnt anything from being 18 to now 25, it is that my entire viewpoint has changed. I know it is easier said than done, but do not let pressure bring you down. Do not work towards things you do not want.
      I never did the wild drinking holidays and all that and I don’t look back and regret it one bit. Do what makes you happy!

  6. lauzieslifestyle says

    I think at any age you can suddenly want a change or go of course and do something else. These lists can be really silly. I saw one that said things like – go for a picnic on the beach, go on a hike with your friends. We should be able to choose what things in life we want to do right!

  7. Coyote from Orion says

    Just make 30. If you do you will realize not everyone does and give yourself a pat on the nack. The world may appear nice and positive… though it can be dangerous and unfair. Be grateful and protect others… especially those weak or afraid

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I think it is ok to make your own personal list and I think that is really helpful. But when there is a random list and someone tells you to do it all, that’s when I think there is too much pressure.
      The world can certainly be unfair. I will stay focused on my own goals. 🙂

      • Coyote from Orion says

        Good work. I know when I did I breathed. I didn’t think I would make it. My brother was killed. So was my best mate. I went around the world to find myself. I take my hat off to anyone who makes it. I respect every person older than me each decade they make.
        Mitakuye Oyasin.
        Have a wonderful day and birthday

        • lauzieslifestyle says

          I am sorry to hear about your brother and best mate. It is good that writing your list helped and I respect people older as well. Life can be full of such difficulty. I hope you have a wonderful day as well.

  8. Mrs.S LDN says

    Loved this and love these kind of posts. They make me stop and think and look around me. See how I’m doing, where I should be and where I should be focusing… In the best kind of way 🙂
    I also love your SATC reference. That is such a good point, women of a certain age all in different stages of there life. I mean show me someone who has everything in a row and all lined up!? There is so many paths to take!!
    Great post baby doll
    xxxx

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I suppose this links to the whole concept of the woman who can do it all. There has been a debate going on since forever now, about if you can do both and do it all successfully.
      I think we live in a really competitive society and we put such high expectations on ourselves. I think what SATC shows, is that women can choose any path – they can be married, have kids, a career etc,, and still not have it all together. Nobody ever can and these lists that us what to do, almost try to conform everyone to be the same and think that we should all aspire to what everyone else has.
      Thank you girl! xxxxx

  9. Infinite Living says

    Great post! It can get very confusing if you look at the lists …your last para sums it all very well. Do what’s required and joyful of the present and keep going, is what works perfectly.

  10. nataliesalchemy says

    oh my gosh yes. It stresses me out so much to hear about those who are so accomplished so young. It makes me think, what the hell am I doing? I agree that we all have our own journey, and I like to remind myself that I’m doing what I’m supposed to in the right time. That way it doesn’t freak me out about not accomplishing my goals and dreams so quickly.

    Natalie | http://nataliesalchemy.wordpress.com

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I know! Everytime I think that I have my life together, I come across someone who is doing so much more. But I guess in reality, the world would be crazy if everyone achieved the same thing at the same time.
      The main focus should be our own happiness right now and working on our own goals.

  11. hudapervez says

    It depends what success means to you: if it means being famous or just reaching and working towards your full potential! In my opinion, if a person is doing everything they can to achieve there dreams, then they are already successful in my opinion! I hope that made sense haha!
    As for these types of lists, I rarely ever read them as they do overwhelm me!

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Haha I understood! Most people want to reach their full potential and if you are doing everything, you are definitely successful on some level. How many can go to bed at night and know that they utilised their day entirely?
      I am avoiding the lists now too! x

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I agree that people can read and take responsibility for where they are at, but I also think that everyone has their own goals and when you read a list telling you what to do, it can put pressure on you to conform.

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