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  1. zensationalsite says

    This is a great post! My whole transition into positivity and changing myself stemmed from being left by someone for someone else. As time went by it became less about him and more about me which was so liberating. Love it ! X

  2. Beyoutiful says

    Love this post girl!! Can relate to some of this but I’m so happy for you that you’re loving and focusing on yourself! You’re such a beautiful and strong girl and you deserve so much more. You deserve friends and ‘the one’ who values you as an amazing soul and sees your worth! Last year, I had a similar thing with a guy friend in which his words didnt match his actions. It really disappointed me since he didnt care about me as much as I cared about him. Lesson learned and I’m so glad I’m single cuz now I’m really focusing my goals, priorities and learning to love myself! Great post and keep inspiring <3 🙂

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Thank you so much lovely!! This comment has really made me smile! I think I am learning that with relationships and even friends, it is them with the problem. They have the issues with commitment or the emotions to be hot and cold. Normal, content people do not waste time doing that.
      I am really happy for you as well that you can now move forward and focus on your own goals. When the right person comes along, you will be more confident within yourself and can bring more to the table – mentally and even in terms of success. That is how I see it now.
      I am still working on finding a good group of friends and seeking ‘the one’, but just like you I will continue to work on me. Thank you for such a sweet and thoughtful comment. x

      • Beyoutiful says

        Yeah I agree! I was thinking maybe that it had something to do with me and but I figured that it was him with the issues and that I would rather be friends with a guy who knows my value and gives me importance as a friend! Aw thank you! So glad that my comment made you feel better! Yup, keep loving yourself and the right one and friends will come along! Hope you have a lovely week ahead girl <3

  3. niccimcshane says

    What an honest and genuine post, it’s actually really apt for me right now as having come out of an abusive relationship I am feeling a lot of the emotions you have talked about. It’s not easy at all and I’m rebuilding but reading how you felt and have gotten through it has given me hope and inspiration xxxx

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Your comment means a lot! I am sorry that your relationship was abusive but I also have so much admiration for you and that you have managed to get out. Mine kind of felt emotionally abusive and I was ignored a fair amount. I just thought – why am I letting one guy affect all my emotions and security?
      If you ever need to talk, I am here! I know we have never met personally. but through your writing I see amazing qualities within you and you deserve a person that treats you with nothing but respect. At the very least, we can find comfort in both moving on. xxxx

      • niccimcshane says

        Oh you’ve just made me cry (happy, supportive tears!). Thankyou for your kind comments they mean the world to me. Rebuilding and finding confidence again can be tough and a long drawn out process but I do seek comfort knowing the other side is there! Thankyou once again you may regret offering me your shoulder hahah xxxx

        • lauzieslifestyle says

          Haha I will not regret it! It is super tough and I think even as bloggers, we sometimes want to show the good or be inspiring. But there is no shame in admittedly that you need to rebuild and find confidence. In fact, that is really inspiring! So many people do not get to that stage. They just keep on going, ready to make the same mistakes. You saying that as well, has certainly made me feel less alone.
          When I look back at how broken I was, not just with the relationship but with myself, I am grateful for it now. I am not completely confident, but those memories have made me stronger. It will take a moment, but what you have gone through, I truly believe will make you into an greater person and far more wiser soul. xxxx

  4. ivefoundwaldo says

    There was one relationship in particular where I tried to measure up to who he was. He was nothing like your guy though, because when I was inside my bubble all I saw was perfection. Outside of the bubble, all I saw was all the imperfections. I wanted to mold myself into someone who was worthy of him, when instead, he was barely worthy for me. I tried so hard to change, but in reality no matter of changing was going to make him happy. After this relationship ended, I realized how wrong I was to try to change for someone who wasn’t worth changing for. I am so happy that that love turned into self-love for myself. It’s funny how the world works, right? Everything happens for the reason, and if that relationship didn’t happen, that maybe I wouldn’t be as self-loving as I am right now xx

    Melina | http://www.ivefoundwaldo.com

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I really related to this! When I was with him, everything appeared perfect. He was the most loving, attentive gentleman who had ‘old school’ manners. Away from me, I was treated like dirt.
      I wanted to be worthy of him but like you said, I realised he was barely worthy of me. I could never have made him happy, even if I had every quality that I could possibly desire.
      It is funny how the world works but how great that you can walk away from that relationship and end up more fulfilled. Thank you for this comment. Reading it was like reading my mind! xx

  5. straightfromthestudentsmouth says

    Thank you for sharing such a raw and personal post with us – I can relate to this, I used to always try and change myself and my standard of how I expect to be treated just so someone would “pick me”. But that never happened and I soon realised that you just cant satisfy some people.

    I am now in a relationship in which I actually feel respected and I can be myself 100%. It took a lot for me to realise that I wasn’t the one who needed to change – it was the one who couldn’t accept me for who I am that needed to change. Finding my now boyfriend has made me realise that I deserved so much better before, and I am finally treated the way I deserve to be treated!

    I completely believe that every thing happens for a reason, and its great that you have been able to use your experience as a lesson and you have come out so much stronger! I wish you all the best in your health and fitness, love x

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      It is nice to hear that you are now in a loving relationship. It is a horrible feeling to think that someone doesn’t want you. I wanted to avoid that acceptance and instead work on what I could change, as if moulding myself would make me ‘better’.
      I agree with your thoughts and I always think experiences happen for a reason – so it was important for me to learn from it.
      I wish you all the best for your relationship now and I hope we never ever go through life wanting to ever change for anybody – whether a partner or friend. x

  6. nataliesalchemy says

    Thank you so much for this post. This is where I want to be. I recently went through a break up, and I want to learn how to be on my own two feet and enjoy my own company. Ultimately, to love my self and be comfortable with my self. You are goals lovely! Also, I hate those comments as if being single is a negative thing. :/

    Natalie | Natalie’s Alchemy

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Thank you Natalie!
      I do not think being single is negative at all. I do think that dating can be annoying though because I have had some really bad dates! I wish I could jump in between single and relationship!
      I think you have to set aside time (even if it’s 10 mins) to do something that you love just for you and then set aside another moment to do something that is getting you to where you want to be. Baby steps was the answer for me and when it came to my health, even swapping 1 chocolate bar for fruit was something I applauded. I am still trying to figure out exactly who I am and what my true goals are, but I don’t tear myself down anymore.
      I hope you get to wherever you want and you find happiness within your own company. I guess blogging helps with that! x

  7. hell0chloe says

    This was such a great post, I feel like I’m going through a similar thing right now so it’s weird that you wrote this – I can also relate to the weight loss thing. This gives me motivation and inspiration that I so desperately need. Thank you .xx

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      When I wrote this, I was not sure of who would relate as I know many of followers are in relationships. So I am super appreciate that mentioned your similarity – although at the same time I wish you didn’t. I am wondering whether I want to discuss this relationship further because of the comments that I have been receiving.
      I hope you get to a place where you are content and happy. I am still trying to look a certain way or have more definition, but I focus on the progress and however small – that helps. xx

  8. lauzieslifestyle says

    The relationship was not all bad so I will always take the happiness that did come from it, but there was a lot to learn and as you said, I will no longer put myself in that position again. Living a healthier lifestyle has completely changed me and I hope I will never go back to my habits before. x

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