Instead of a birthday tag, I will be ‘blog celebrating’ my 25th yesterday, with these 25 life lessons. Let me know your favourites.
Do not accept what can be changed
Complain or change. No matter how many plausible excuses I muster, I have to devise a plan or live with a repetitive mind.
Try and change for the better
Every year, I want to be mentally stronger. I want to achieve more growth and more life experience. It is important to edit my mind as much as my hair.
Find the good in memories
Whether it is heartbreak or lost friends – whatever ending we may occur, I want to appreciate the fun. People come into our lives at certain times. Maybe they go after the rollercoaster, or perhaps they stay till the park is closed. As long as they had made me laugh at one time or another, I will move on with a smile.
Admit my flaws
In order for acceptance, I want to face up to my fears; face up to the thoughts that I would prefer to ignore. Humans by nature are imperfect. By admitting my flaws, I own up to my truth. I am not hiding parts of me and conceiving a lie.
Accept my friends flaws
If they are genuinely a great friend and there by my side, I do not want to make a fuss that they occasionally show up late and refuse to try a restaurant that I like, which has an unusual cuisine. I can grow with friends, but I cannot invest time in trying to switch them.
Own my style
I thought that style meant trendy. I questioned my style – I do not like wearing much jewellery – is that wrong?
What brings me confidence and makes me feel glamorous/chic/sophisticated; that is to be embraced.
Listen without agreeing
Knowledge is power. It is crucial for me to soak in opinions – especially the ones that differ from my own, without instantly believing that they are right. Opinions are just that.
Crowds are individual, lost people
I tend to become anxious around a large group, because I collectively imagine their words to each be similar. In theory, they might share the same anxiety. They might be wondering if they stand out clumsily too.
No one should be placed on a pedal stool
Instead of thinking – will they like me? – I should be asking if I like them. If I am going to elevate a person, I should elevate myself too.
The sky is my limit
This mindset will grant me the capability to pursue. By teaching that I can overcome obstacles and other stances, I can work that much harder. Instead of walking away and giving up, I will reach further.
Work my hardest, to be my best
Aaliyah said it best. When I figure out what I want…I have to give everything.
Compete only with me
Comparing to another will only convince me that I fall short. In reality, we all individually have our own weaknesses and strengths.
Be grateful for every accomplishment
This significantly transformed my fitness. By mentally rewarding even the tiniest of progress, I managed to keep motivation. I hope to continue to be grateful and to award recognition.
Stop remaking history
My mind can fantasise people and situations. This can stop me from moving on. Face up to my reality and know when the bad outweighs the good.
Do not listen to negativity
One of the hardest lessons; it is all too easy to inhale negativity. This leads me to my next point…
Do not listen to my own negativity
Whenever I want to analyse until I find reason to complain, I need to take that energy and find a contrasting place to refocus it.
Defy myself to break out of my box
From the moment we are born, our lives are almost boxed. People declare us to be loud, quiet, and intelligent; they put limitations on us. I always want to push the boundaries. I always want to defy my expectations.
Always find time for self-love
Whitney sang “The greatest love of all, is easy to achieve, learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all”. If that is selfish, than be selfish. If I do not love myself, how can I expect my partner, family and friends too? How can I support someone, if I cannot support myself?
Everything happens for a reason
I choose to believe this. It kind of takes the pressure off. When people especially come into my life at difficult moments, it gives me peace to think that they were planned. I am not religious, but I am very spiritual.
The times when I did not receive an email or call back, or the times when I heard the word no; those times made me. I would not be who I am today if I did not know failure. In general, it has opened my eyes and I hope that – likely – when it strikes again, I welcome the lessons from it.
My body’s a temple
This may sound ‘cheesy’, but my surgeries did adapt my viewpoint. Before going through my operations, I remember feeling petrified. If you would have told me what I would have had to of gone through beforehand, I would have not had any courage. At my hospital, I became one of the fastest recovering patients.
I recovered quickly because I mentally told myself that I could. I met a patient who had a similar surgery that went wrong and I will never forget him looking at me and saying “I wish I had your back” as he sat in a wheelchair. From then on, I decided that my health is vital and I should appreciate what health I have – I want to continue appreciating.
Money does not equal happiness
In honestly, money equals some. To consider money as a solid path to happiness nonetheless, is wrong. I dated a wealthy guy and I was probably the most insecure and saddest that I have ever been. Success is the factor that I want to drive me and money should be the bonus.
Not everyone changes for the better
Going back to change, unfortunately it is not always an improvement. As much as we want ‘best friends forever’ or partners that have seen us on a valuable section of our journey, life is just too short to carry on with people who no longer offer positive company.
Age is nothing but a number
As I am in my mid-twenties, I am noticing how diverse my other mid-twenty friend’s lives are. In this decade, we are expected to get married, start a family, buy a home, earn a stable income, travel the world, live recklessly, have fun and do just about everything that one possibly can in life. It is ok to be at a different stage. As long as I move along on my journey, I am living life to the full.
Do not take yourself too seriously
As my favourite Lauren Bacall said, “Do not take yourself too seriously. You have to take your work seriously, but do not take yourself too seriously”.
Do you have a life lesson to add? Which one’s can you relate too?