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  1. skippingschoolsite says

    Wow. No one has ever voiced this feeling this perfectly before! You encapsulated every worry and thought. I loved how you ended on a positive note. I think that’s so important in a lifestyle blog.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Thank you! I think it is a topic that is so relatable to many, but people do not always discuss. I am also happy that you noticed the positive note, because that is something I always try to do.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I am sorry to hear about you and your friend, I obviously do not know the situation, but I hope you can both reconcile! Thank you for taking the time to read and no problem. πŸ™‚

  2. uncoveringstories says

    This is such a beautiful piece. Having finished my freshman year of college, many of friendships are at a crossroads as my college life becomes my main world and what bound many of my friendships has faded away with time. I share in your reflection so thank you, for saying the words I don’t know how to say.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Thank you!! I can relate to your college situation but with work. Whenever I would move, I would always lose communication because the job itself would bound us. One of the hard things that comes with life I suppose.

  3. The Emma Edit says

    I hope you are chuffed with yourself, this is an excellent post, very well written! Everyone is on a different path: sometimes friends leave our lives, but it doesn’t mean they can’t come back πŸ™‚

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Thank you Emma! It took along time to write, because I kept finding new things that I wanted to say.
      I agree, friends can come back and I think the older we get, the more we appreciate them. x

  4. ughmango says

    I could not agree more with everything you say. I often watch friends or sex and the city too (I love those series) and I just find myself so jealous over the bond that those characters have. It’s so beautiful and I can only hope to have something like that when I am 30.. xx

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I really wish I had that kind of a friendship group. My friends are all different and none of them really know each other. I hope I have a Friends/Sex in the City group in my twenties lol.
      xx

  5. Infinite Living says

    Very very well done! You absolutely covered every possible scenario of changing and evolving friendships, and the heartbreak that sometimes goes with it. So many friendships flashed in my mind as I kept reading. Some precious ones re-enter life, reconnect stronger than before. I focus on those and count my blessings. I also realize that I too have drifted apart from some …but one thing is sure I do value every single friendship, and there is no need for goodbyes, just maybe temporary spaces.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      The only time goodbye has been necessary for me, is if a friend is no longer being a ‘good friend’. Even then, there is a sadness.
      It is nice that precious ones have re-entered. I am sure you are a good friend and the people you value, are very lucky :). Thank you for reading!

  6. ivefoundwaldo says

    This was a great post. I had to deal with losing an extremely close friend in the last year. I was extremely hurt and confused, but it wasn’t distance or time that split us up, it was a betrayal. It sucks that a decade long friendship was ended because of a betrayal, that ripped my heart into pieces. It’s funny that the loss of a friend might be even worse than the loss of a lover. Like you said, they’ve been there for you through everything. I’ve gotten over it, but there are still moments where I think about the friendship we had. I know this isn’t necessarily what you are talking about in this post, but you got me thinking as always xxx

    Melina | http://www.ivefoundwaldo.com

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I am sorry to hear that. Betrayal in friendships – especially close, is horrible. I agree, it can be worse than the loss of a lover. I don’t think people realise how significant close friends are, until they go.
      I think what you are saying relates to the post. I ended a friendship with my best friend and although I am happy with that decision, there are moments when I remember things.
      Thank you for taking the time to write such a detailed comment. xxx

  7. Beyoutiful says

    Wow, very nicely written girl! I totally agree with everything you say! I’ve been really disappointed lately as well since I messaged friends from HS thinking that I can reconnect with them and they just dont seem to care and we tend to lose friendships since they are busy with their lives. I mean the whole point of FB is to unite and to keep in touch with old and current friends but nowadays FB has become a platform for curiosity and jealousy, thinking that others have better lives. I’ve tried to keep in touch with certain friends and they don’t reciprocate and understand that we genuinely want to connect and remninscence those memories. I’ve given up and just moved on and am just really focusing on those true friends who actually genuinely care about me. I’m so glad my friends in this blogging community understand these genuine friendships and am sooo happy to met everyone here! Am really glad that you expressed your thoughts on this. Glad to know that I’m not alone on this and dw Laura, we will always be there for you as a true friend πŸ™‚ <3

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      That is so true! “FB has become a platform for curiosity and jealousy”. I use FB now simply to upload meaningful photos that I don’t want to lose. I know there are memory sticks etc, but on FB it is so easy to store holiday photos and things. I created a new account years ago now and have just over a hundred followers – quite small for FB. Yet even then, only a few seem genuine. It is really a competing ground to say – look how much better I am living. And admittedly, to every person that made me feel bad, I want to post a hot image and say F-U! Haha – I never type that!
      It is amazing the connections and friendships that I have made through blogging and social-media. Sometimes I think I am the only person to think a certain way, then I realise that there is a world full of people who share the same feelings.
      You are certainly not alone and I am confident more people will read this and agree. I am grateful to have come across your blog and will be there for you as well. πŸ™‚ x

      • Beyoutiful says

        Haha so true! I barely go on FB anymore since not many ppl are genuine and I would really rather blog since most ppl on here are so authentic and understanding. But yeah, I’m glad we all feel the same way and vent out our thoughts together. Aw same here and your comment made my day, thank you girl! <3

  8. abbeycoseattle says

    Wow lots of deep thought here but this is a great post! I feel very strongly that friendships shouldn’t be lost just because our lives change. If you were great friends but aren’t able to see each other often anymore due to lifestyle changes, why does that have to mean you aren’t great friends anymore? Why not just be happy to see each other on the limited times you are able to meet up? I have a two year old and my life changed socially in extreme amounts when I had a kid. It’s like people without kids are just repelled by the lives of people with kids and I don’t understand why.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Thank you Abbey. I agree, I have friends who no longer live near me, but we manage to stay great friends. Especially with technology, it is so much easier to stay connected. In some cases, those bonds can be closer.
      Whilst I agree that people can be repelled by the lives of people with kids, I also know people with children, who then judge people who don’t have them. One of my friends, when her baby was born, suddenly started questioning why I wanted to wait and be ambitious first.
      I think people should accept each other’s decisions and learn to work with each other. The best friendships to me, are the one’s who don’t try to change each other.

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