According to science, being beautiful entails a number of traits. Published last year on flawlessgene.com, this includes facial symmetry, waist-to-hip ratio, large eyes and even eyebrow shape.
Unfortunately, ethnicity made the cut.
From working in the beauty industry, I had to get comfortable in accepting that I was judged aesthetically, and that it was my job to make a person live up to beauty standards.
A harsh true that people in makeup rarely indulge. As much as cosmetics are focused on creative fun and a creative outlet, I would always know when a client sat in my chair and looked at me with eyes that said…’please make me look nice’.
And what we consider ‘nice’, I don’t believe (yes I’m not an expert) is down to science alone. It’s a societal trend and with a hint of luck, your look might be in season.
I first went to school being the darkest girl in my class and one of the only kids with brown eyes and dark brown hair. I hated my thick eyebrows and how I longed to look like my favourite Disney character Cinderella.
Flash-forward ten years and I get compliments on my olive skin-tone. Though I am also told that if I had blue or green eyes – how incredible that combination would be. Imagine if I had kids with someone darker and then my children would have a more tanned complexion.
Well, it Coco Chanel who made a tan popular; having accidentally over-done her outdoor leisure in the South of France. Before then, why on earth would you want one?
It’s not just about colour and race, eyebrows and body shape goals also repeatedly change. In the 90’s, we longed for Kate Moss’s thin lines above her eyes. Now we wish for Cara’s. If your eyebrows are outdated, you’re potentially less attractive.
Do you know that really tall blond girl with those amazing, thick eyebrows?
Competitiveness is normal around a bunch of women self-obsessing over makeup and appearance. When working on cosmetic counters, if customers were not around, discussions on celebrities we wished to look like and how pretty so-and-so is always commenced.
I got incredibly caught up in that environment and started noticing the same thoughts.
It felt as though we were all moths just clinging to the news on culture
I’ve always witnessed it. Women who have flawlessly sculptured, specific features; crumbling when they realise that their image is no longer ideal.
Celebrities who went their whole lives not being abnormally known for their physicality, bombarded in the spotlight enough for us to beat ourselves down over comparisons.
Beauty is purchased
Being beautiful is far more than outside skin, however on focusing on that perspective, society creates what’s regarded perfection.
Social-media has simply zoomed in on what the outside world is portraying. Before, you saw photos on the TV and in the magazines, now it’s everywhere.
This has led to a generation that looks the same. It’s led to Instagram influencers and successful vloggers, generally sporting big lips, contoured cheeks, large – I squat butts and have you seen my – I’ve so filled them in well brows.
People blame Kim Kardashian as the source of this carbon copying and admittedly (yes you can see below), I terribly failed years ago at attempting her face courtesy of Mario. I mean, could I have lined my cheeks anymore?!
But all she did was hone in on the selfie trend and capitalise on the market. Likewise with her sister Kylie, who grasped that she could brand herself after the publicity from her lips being plumped.
We have more awareness of how being beautiful is achieved. Through YouTube we watch all the tips and tricks.
When the trends change
What comes up – must come down. It will edit and one day the current body type will decrease in desire. Your makeup will be wrong and possibly your natural features, not so wanted.
Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful – Sophia Loren
The amount of ‘skinny’ girls who in highschool with me, wanted to flaunt their figures and wear crop tops that I only dreamed of. Now reporting their insecurities on not having a ‘shape’ – no big hips or ‘slimthick’ curves for outfits to cling to.
If you have ever questioned your beauty and faced self-doubt, ask yourself this: If the Daily Mail and every newspaper and consumer media out there, posted photos of others who looked like you – mentioned how gorgeous and stunning, would that make you more attractive?
Yes, and because of writers sat behind their desks. Or perhaps designers who put forward a new ‘it’ girl.
Being beautiful is a game
Like many, I go through phases. Occasionally feeling good and bad equally.
But if you do think of me as being beautiful, it’s not due to being blessed with great genes.
Wracked in hatred of myself, I grew up believing that if I fixated on my looks and tried to imitate glamour, I could be happy and accepted.
Elegance is when the inside is as beautiful as the outside – Chanel
In primary school, I remember a popular boy rated me as one of his least favourite girls to possibly date. I was ‘dorky’ and on a school trip where a girl did my makeup, people made these shocked compliment remarks…like ‘wow you ACTUALLY look pretty!’
High school however; I knew guys who fancied me, all the while hearing comments on my acne and my ‘beaver teeth’ (I have an overbite).
At college, I was miserably depressed, gained loads of weight and stocked up on wonder bras that made my boobs say hi to everyone.
Only they were not mine and belonged to filling.
After many trials and errors in my early twenties – if you are a teenager reading this (brace yourself), I toned up, lost over a stone, learnt to do makeup that flattered my facial traits and got comfortable posing – both in full outfits and wearing next-to-nothing.
I found a sex appeal that was hidden for years and in truth, lost my virginity a few years back.
Though I always acted as if I was some ‘bad-ass’ that was completely confident and so in tune with my sexuality.
Despite all those modifications, I still sit and slump at my sugar addiction when its got the best of me, ask – did I really post that photo of my stomach not looking flat, and why is my hair so dry?
I’m at a place of realising that having spent the majority of my life at a war in the mirror, waking up 1.5 hours early and having zero time left to eat breakfast or make my bed, I’m just over being insecure.
I want beauty above a trend
Anyone can do a makeover show and come out ‘attractive’, visit the plastic surgeon or dermatologist. If you have all the money and the right people, the world is your oyster.
But the internal issues and battles remain. The length you have of being beautiful is short and age always robs us – unless you’re Jennifer Lopez.
Instead of getting too caught up on the online world and trying to match what’s out there, find the beauty in you. I truly believe that I could take every person reading this and draw a list of wonderful characteristics.
Individually, emphasis should be placed on physical aspects you love, and not on trying to chase a media concept. I think that physical beauty is important – being proud of your image and how you portray yourself. Although your mannerisms, how you walk and deep down what you say, truly define what being beautiful means.
How do you think being beautiful is represented in the media and have you tried to live up to the standards? What’s the best physical feature you like most and your favourite personality trait?
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