I woke up every morning to the views of Miami beach breezing paradise in my eyes. My balcony was quite high, and for a moment in the AM before the kids descended upon the pool and artificial splashes drowned out the sea’s whispers, my thoughts felt serene. What do I want to be? A goal-getter?
What are my goals? Where do my dreams lead?
As I sat and pondered the reflections spilling, I awakened to the darkened nightmare that I was blissfully unaware of my state of happy. The fact that happiness didn’t breathe within me, and rather when the sea tides stayed and I packed my bags home, I would be greeted to depression without beauty to glare at my soul.
No number of images; no ‘I wish you were here’s’ can really fill a void in your life. To be a goal-getter, you have to think bigger than the social-media sphere and the fantasies of how some live.
A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new – Albert Einstein
Get specific – really specific
Before I go on to share my complete love for this app, I have to say that this mention is not sponsored and I am actually reviewing it for a different site.
Remente is the greatest app in the entire world, or at least the best goal-getter one. Amongst its features, you can track your daily mood and emotions, and set step-by-step goal plans. I am working towards less procrastination, fulfilling my ambitions, a better morning routine and a cut-down on refined sugar.
So, every day, Remente sets me a list of tasks to complete. It has courses for me to partake, whereby I read information, tips and do mini tasks within each course. There are also boosters which offer quick slices of knowledge to keep me going.
One of my courses involved me writing down a specific 1 year and 6-month plan. Remente gave me a host of advice on how to write, for instance, I have to use phrases like ‘increase/decrease’ and I have to know confidently how I will manage each aim.
This led to the makeover of my blog and it opened my eyes to where I’m currently standing. In order to fulfil, you have to know what needs fulfilling.
Make your list doable, or you’ll forever be waving bye to sea tides and palm tree sways.
I am not a has-been. I am a will be – Lauren Bacall
Set aside goal-getter time
Once you know what you need to do, you have to acquire the time to get focused.
I noticed with blogging, I was setting space to comment, like and share, but I had no clue where I was swimming. And my dream career is high-earning writer, so why did I pretend a high-flying blogger?
And so, by setting dedicated length to these thoughts, I began breaking down what it is I want from both.
There are countless thoughts our minds partake in; how many do you remember daily? There’s a difference however between imaginations we conjure full of meaning and worries we conjure blurred in doubt.
Separate the two and then see whether you honestly need to set aside that goal-getter time block.
Work on your rituals
On a daily basis, I now arise to the sounds of motivational speakers. This week has been Tony Robbins.
It’s hard for my brain to track every line spoken, therefore I carefully sketch my favourite parts in memory.
Robbins mentioned that people can paint a picture of someone, purely by their rituals. If I told you, that a person continually pressed the snooze button, skipped breakfast and opted for a Starbucks mocha-locha whatever, they never exercised or meditated, never took a while to work on themselves, what would your opinion be?
Would you believe that they were motivated, healthy and striving?
Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach – Tony Robbins
The second example; a person gets out of bed straight away, ensures that they eat a good breakfast, does a morning stretch, exercises routinely and spends their weekend mornings trying to meditate, would you then say that they seem motivated, healthy and striving?
Our rituals tell us what we need to know. If your rituals look different to the vision that you’re trying to create, it’s worth evaluating them.
Change your camera settings
The second perspective Tony Robbins gave me, was that we as humans constantly see what we choose to zoom in on.
If you go to a party and say, “this looks boring”, your brain will search for reasons to validate your point. Likewise, if you look in the mirror and say “I look fat”, again your brain will back you up.
To gain a bigger picture, stop immediately judging and scrutinising. Zoom out and grasp the bigger picture of your life. What are you great at? What’s the best talent that you possess? What would your friends say?
In order to be a goal-getter, you have to believe. You have to continually stay positive and on the up because the grander you dream, the more hard, stressful and sacrificing it will feel.
Two years later I was in Ibiza. I didn’t have the balcony to ocean views, I didn’t have a morning of serenity to selfishly grasp, but I still felt as though I was holding on to losing it all and arriving back home with emptiness beyond ‘holiday blues’.
What made Ibiza different to Miami, is that I had a certainty in place. I came back and worked harder than I ever have before, 3 am nights and 7:30 am starts, and while my dreams are shores away to surpassing, they are now in clear reach. I’m on my path of being a goal-getter and I’m grateful to myself for overcoming my dark days and slithering anxiety.
What are your best goal-getter tips?
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